leaving sons father, should move out of state

Dawn - posted on 06/22/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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we moved to Colorado because he did Mike take this anymore and he can smoke pot legallyrelationship is over it and now I'm wondering if I should go back to Texas for my family and friends and stay here in an apartment and a job so he can see his. Son. He doesn't contribute to feedin, changin, baths, putting him to bed. He says he is distant because of our relationship, because moms take care of babies. We have nothing from courts and I'm not a resident here yet. His mother is also in Texas. I just feel guilty like I'll be harmi g my son in some way by not having his dad around full time. He is letting me stay in home until I fknd work and a job, he doesn't have to work so he'll be daycare. Please help!!!!

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Dawn - posted on 06/23/2013

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Yes, because Colorado made it legal w license. I also have a 9 yr old little girl who wanted to go live w her dad because of him and if i stay here he can help w his son but I have no one to help w my daughter. My dad and step mom want us in Texas so they can help us. I am afraid to leave, its sad to end relationship, and he is going to flip out and go crazy!!! He is trying to be civil and nice which makes it harder to make a decision.

Jodi - posted on 06/23/2013

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And I would check with a lawyer if it is ok. If you are not actually residents there, chances are it will be okay legally.

Jodi - posted on 06/23/2013

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Sorry, your post very difficult to decipher. Can I clarify? You moved to Colorado BECAUSE he could smoke pot legally???? That was the entire reason? Did I read that right?

Ev - posted on 06/23/2013

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Then its time to do what needs to be done for that baby and not him (father).

Dawn - posted on 06/23/2013

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He said we are over. He hasn't really interactted with our son, in order to stay away from me. He when "to cousins" house last night at 8 and got home at 2. Our son was crawling after hI'm when he was trying to leave, he scooped him up for a second and put hin down, the baby got upset and threw himself backward hitting his head on the tile. He then picked hI'm up and handed him to me saying" I was leaving." He got home and said u cannot ask me questions we r roommates, if I want to stay out all night I can!!

Ev - posted on 06/22/2013

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I have "back" problems too. But I get up everyday and go to work to support myself and my son. That is what he needs to be doing some way or another. Daycare is not a bad thing either as it gives the child the chance to learn social skills that he won't get sitting at home while watching dad smoke pot off and on all day. You need to do what is best for that child. If dad wants to see his son he can come to Texas to do that.

Dawn - posted on 06/22/2013

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He has "back" problems but as smoked since he was 18, amost 40 now. He says that a son not having a father is bad. He loves our son and wants to watch him instaed of daycare. I just think of my son looking up to his dad as a pot smoker who doesn't have a job and thinks women should cook, clean and be sexy, I don't want him vrowung up w that mentality! His son is all he has that makes his life worth while, well beside the drug use.

Ev - posted on 06/22/2013

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Since you have no paperwork with courts about custody and such, move home. I would not want someone who is smoking pot legal or not taking care of my kid if all he or she is doing is using it to get high. Does he have a medical condition that doctors have pointed to pot as a resource for help? You are not doing your son any favors following dad around just because....you need a support group of family and friends and it sounds like you do not have that in the state of Colorado. Go home.

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