Left with kids

Jenny - posted on 05/10/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hello. I'm new to all this. Just need to ask what I am to do. My partner has left me and our three children. He seems to be depressed for a long time now and has moved to his sisters house. The children think hes away for work, but I know they are getting suspicious. I'm lost. It's like I'm walking around in a dream. I'm going to have to apply for one parent family allowance etc. I'm dreading it. I don't feel like the strong, independant woman I should be.


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JuLeah - posted on 05/10/2011




your job, as a strong independant woman, is to provide for your kids. If that means you need to apply for a one parent family allowence, do it. All of us strong indepdant types do whatever we need to do to provide for our kids

America3437 - posted on 05/10/2011




Jenny, the best thing you can do for your children is to be honest with them. You don't want them to have a false since of security and watch them wait day after day for dad to walk back through the door. This is a delicate situation but please be honest with them and they will adjust fine. As far as your relationship with him goes I can only say.... continue on with your life and think about what you want! As parents we sometimes think that staying togeather is best for the kids but really..... kids absorb all that goes on around them and walls are thin. They already know there is a problem and it better for parent's to go their seperate ways then to prolong the fear of seperation in their children. Look love hurts and you have to deal with these feelings in a positive way so load up the kids and go fishing for the day! Enjoy life and let him work out his issues!

Annette - posted on 05/10/2011




Hi Jenny, this is awful, you must be in shock. First, run yourself a long, hot bath, when the kids aren't around. Put on your most soothing music, and when you feel relaxed and restored, call his sister and find out whats going on from her side. Don't speak to him yet. If he is, as you say, depressed, he needs to get help first. I don't know where you live, but there are ways and means of getting help for yourself, which at this stage is most important. You need to be there for the kids. You will cope, even if right now you may not feel strong, do what you have to to help yourself and your kids through this difficult time. All the best, Annette.

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