Samantha - posted on 04/22/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




I'm seeking legal advice. I am a single mother to a beautiful three year old boy. I work a full time job, I am drug/alcohol free, I am not on any type of assistance and do everything to the best of my ability that I can. I have recently found out that I am expecting another child with the same man, we are not together and we've had some issues before. He has not been able to hold down a job and is currently without a job. His mother has threatened me before with taking my first child. She made a comment with this pregnancy "Hide and watch" She knows her sons disposition and expects me to quit my job and relocate closer to her. I didn't want to put her son on the birth certificate but I'm unsure what to do at this point.


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Dove - posted on 04/22/2015




Get a lawyer and get custody/visitation/child support orders in place for your 3 year old immediately and make a note about adding the baby as soon as he/she is born. You do not have the legal or moral right to keep either of your children away from their father, but you DO have the responsibility to make sure they are protected through it all.

Ev - posted on 04/22/2015




Legally, you should have set up custody, visitation, and child support for the other child from the get go. Secondly, when this child comes do the same thing. Any court orders that come of it he has to follow up on his end of things to see the child and support the child but in this case it will be children. You most likely will have to have a DNA test to prove paternity since you did not have him listed on the birth certificate. Do not withhold the kids from him so he can build what relationship he can with them. If you hold out on him on visitation he can take you to court for custody. In the other hand, he can also go to court and request joint custody, visitation, and anything else he is legally entitled to as a parent to the children.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/22/2015




Get an attorney. You don't legally have the right to make the decision to alienate the man that you slept with, creating the children.

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