Aimee - posted on 10/15/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
My son just turned 3 years old a month ago and he started preschool for the 1st time. Never been in a day care and around other children since he is the 1st grandchild on both sides. 1st day of class we were happy that the strange environment didn't bother him he was more focus on the toys so my husband and I decided to give our hugs and kisses and sneak out. We thought that was a good start but after less than a month in school 18.5 hours to be exact as he goes only twice a week for 2 1/2 the teacher told me that both the assistant teacher and her wanted to recommend our son to be screened because he doesn't talk, doesn't respond, doesn't play with other kids, doesn't know how to take off and put his jacket on, doesn't know how to open his lunch box and the list of negative comments goes on and on. To top it all the teacher said he should be tested because he is not on the same level as his classmates. I tried to explain to the teacher the circumstance that this is our son's 1st time outside our home by himself in a strange place and with all strangers around him, so his reaction is expected as he is trying to establish him comfort zone, who he can trust and he still has to learn his social skills as he doesn't react well with strangers. Also I told the teacher that when he comes home he discuss what he did and he knows everything that was going on in school, so I am not tea worried. I said if he comes home and had no clue what happened in school then I will be worried. We seek advice from his pediatrician and with my professor who has a phD in early childhood education both of them it is too early to have our son screened since he really spend enough time for them to make that recommendations right away. So I informed the teacher about our decision and they were not so happy about it. Now all I feel with my son's teacher is remorse which I really don't want to feel that way but it seems like they made up their mind about our son and all they wanted to hear friend m us is yes we will have him screen to make them happy.