Letting Go

Angela - posted on 08/04/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have twin boys who turn 21 next week, I was told it was time to start "letting go", it's so hard to do this, my heart is aching. Any advice?

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Michelle - posted on 08/05/2016

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Find yourself a hobby. It's time for you to do something for YOU! You should have been slowly doing this since they were around 16/17 though as you knew the day would come when they left.
You aren't doing them any favours by still "Mummying" them, they need to learn how to live on their own.
You have to believe in yourself and that you raised them to be well rounded young men. They have been adults for a few years now so it's well past time for them to fly the nest.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/05/2016

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Well, you really should have started in stages, because it's a lot harder to just do it now. You need to find your hobbies and interests, and enjoy having your time to do things and pursue interests.

My eldest has been on his own since 19, and while it was an adjustment, we were always working towards his independence. My 18 year old is starting to save for his soon to be move out date.

The eldest hangs out here, still does his laundry here, and works at our market booth during the summer (still lives close). I have more time to do things that I enjoy, not that having kids meant I stopped living LOL, but with the extra room I turned into a sewing room, I have started making bags, purses, and such to sell at our summer markets, I have room to set out and finish a jigsaw puzzle....

In other words, congratulations! You made it! Now live a happy life!

Hang in there. You do get used to it, and you'll be amazed at what you come up with!

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