Sarah - posted on 04/23/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I usually try to be respectful of people's situations and answer their questions honestly with my opinion.
If you're allowing your child to walk all over you, you kind of lie in the bed you make. The answer is, if you want your child to
a) get rid of their pacifier/bottle
b) not eat junk food/drink soda
IS: Don't give it to them! Your 3 year old does not make their own meal. Your 18 month old does not pour their own beverage. It's not going to kill your kids to learn to deal with being told the word NO. If you want to get rid of something or stop "having" to give them something, that is something YOU control, not your child. Sure, it may be hard for a couple days if it's a major change for them, but they'll make it through it. Maybe you schedule a couple days at home to address this behaviour modification, but in the long run, it will be better for your child to learn that they can't always get their own way, that they don't make the rules, and that they need to listen to their Mom and Dad.
Now I really don't mean to offend anyone, but really, this should be common sense. Parenting is full of many challenges and we all need support at times when we are frustrated with dealing with these "little" things that seem so big in our worlds, but we need to remember our common sense when we're dealing with these issues.