Levi's Law Stop 50/50 Custody Petition

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Michelle - posted on 11/06/2016

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I'm wondering the same as Jodi.
I don't believe that you have presented all the evidence in court, if you have any evidence.
I have done 50/50 care for almost 12 years but I know that me ex isn't a danger to my children.
You also have to realize that this is an international forum so your petition isn't relevant to the majority of members here. It is also bordering on soliciting and that isn't allowed here.

Jodi - posted on 11/05/2016

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Aimee, when was you case last heard in court? You aren't really clear on that - it's starting to read that when you divorced your ex, your decree automatically allowed for 50/50. Did you actually present yourself to court with a lawyer and file for an alternative based on evidence that your ex is a danger to your child? You haven't really been all that forthcoming on that. Are you suggesting you've been backwards and forwards to court all of these years and he still has both 50% legal and physical custody? Because if you do have evidence he is endangering the child and you have presented this in court, then I'd be very surprised at this outcome.

Jodi - posted on 11/05/2016

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My understanding is that it is automatically 50/50 IF you can't produce any evidence to demonstrate that this would be detrimental to the child. The judges ARE supposed to take circumstances into account. If you had documented evidence that he abuses the child, as an example, they aren't going to give him 50% custody. There are plenty of people here on this board whose situations have been individually judged based on circumstances and not given automatic 50/50, so I don't quite understand what you personal grievance is. If you aren't happy with your particular judgement, you take it back to court. But the law of 50/50 is supposed to be the STARTING point and then you work from there. It sounds like your grievance is with the particular court and judge that your custody orders are through.

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Ev - posted on 11/05/2016

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This isnt for just my case. This is for ALL kids who are getting stamped 50/50 regardless of the situation. The law needs changed. Each situation needs to be looked at on a 1 on 1 basis. Plus the fact that they are supposed to look at 13 factors and never ONCE look at them. This isnt a moms movement, or dads movement,its a kids movement. Thousands of kids are stuck in the system. It needs changed.

((I agree that things should change but your boycott of this is not thorough or well thought out.))


Its not denying anyone the right to 50/50. Its stopping 50/50 from being stamped on EVERY situation. 50/50 works for some- not all. This isnt a cookie cutter situation, and childs lives shouldnt be treated as such.
((Not all cases are treated the same way. You have to prove the other parent as being dangerous to your child and why. Without said documentation you have to abide the judges’ decisions.)

My life has been documented for 6 years. The law that was passed in 2011 doesnt matter how much proof anyone has. Prostitutes, drunks, drug users, child molesters- yep they all have 50/50. Great system we have.
{{You can not tell me that all those people in your post have 50-50 custody. You do not know the circumstances behind their cases.))

Aimee - posted on 11/05/2016

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What's your suggestions? IT'S not stopping with a petition. I'D love your input as to what you would recommend?

Dove - posted on 11/05/2016

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I really don't think you understand the concept that some random petition w/ 1000 signatures isn't going to actually do a single thing to help your child or any of the children that may be being harmed by 50/50 custody.

Dove - posted on 11/05/2016

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I, personally, had zero trouble at all being granted full legal and full physical custody of my kids. Granted, that was at the end of 2009, but we were back and forth in court for visitation complications for the next 2 years. I am pretty sure there are quite a few moms (or dads) that have been granted full custody of their kids since 2011.

Jodi - posted on 11/05/2016

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I also want to point out that there is a difference between joint legal custody and joint physical custody and you haven't, in this petition, differentiated between the two. I am assuming you are talking about joint physical custody but not arguing that legal custody should be 50/50. Are your orders 50/50 for both?

Aimee - posted on 11/05/2016

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I'll take that chance. I highly disagree- someones got to change the corrupt family law system. Try to actually make it about the kids best interest is the 1st thing.

Aimee - posted on 11/05/2016

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My life has been documented for 6 years. The law that was passed in 2011 doesnt matter how much proof anyone has. Prostitutes, drunks, drug users, child molesters- yep they all have 50/50. Great system we have.

Aimee - posted on 11/05/2016

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Its not denying anyone the right to 50/50. Its stopping 50/50 from being stamped on EVERY situation. 50/50 works for some- not all. This isnt a cookie cutter situation, and childs lives shouldnt be treated as such.

Aimee - posted on 11/05/2016

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This isnt for just my case. This is for ALL kids who are getting stamped 50/50 regardless of the situation. The law needs changed. Each situation needs to be looked at on a 1 on 1 basis. Plus the fact that they are supposed to look at 13 factors and never ONCE look at them. This isnt a moms movement, or dads movement,its a kids movement. Thousands of kids are stuck in the system. It needs changed.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/05/2016

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Yes, and you are petitioning to stop 50/50 entirely.

The effort you are spending would be better put towards documentation of your immediate situation, so as to have it individually addressed.

Aimee - posted on 11/05/2016

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Each case should be on its on merit. IF 50/50 is working for people that's great. However, it doesn't work with all situations. Thats why every case should be individually looked at.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/05/2016

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Petitioning to stop 50/50 custody all together directly contradicts what you say in the body of the petition.

You are correct in saying that each case needs to be reviewed individually, which your petition would interfere with. If you take 50/50 out of the option entirely, then the situations that would be better suited for that arrangement would not be allowed. If YOUR particular situation needs improvement, then you need to document things to present to your attorney, who can then bring them to the attention of the judge to get your particular situation changed.

Denying all parents 50/50 custody is just not reasonable.

Dove - posted on 11/05/2016

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You need to just focus on the situation w/ your particular child and get solid, documented evidence of why 50/50 custody is harmful to him. A petition to stop 50/50 custody in general (or even just for your own child) is going to get you no where and a judge is a lot less likely to take you seriously in your own case if he finds out about the 'rampage'....

Ev - posted on 11/05/2016

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I agree the system is not all it should be for the kids sake. But if he is keeping the child from medical attention for any needs, that should be documented when he is supposed to go and when he did not show up. If you have recorded that it should be enough to take your ex back to court for neglect of medical needs for the child. But boycotting 50/50 custody does not help either. A lot of judges are doing this to make the time more equal with the parents for the sake of the kids. I ended up making a choice to allow the father to have the kids because I could not afford to fight him over custody etc. He WAS not the better parent but what else could I do? I did what was best at the time. We did have joint custody but he had primary care. You said in your petition that each case should be looked at independence of others....if that is so then stopping the total use of 50/50 would be going against the idea of case by case decision as you say in the petition. It just contradicts all you are saying.

Aimee - posted on 11/05/2016

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The fact that my son needs medical attention and his father because he has 50/50 custody is not allowing my son to get the medical attention he needs. Other situations include children being neglected, living with prostitutes, alcoholics and drug users, and putting kids in danger. Driving drunk with the kids in the car and its not right that these types of so called parents have 50/50 custody. The law in PA states that the judge is to look at 13 factors- Never is 6 years has it EVER been looked at. Not to mention the fact that its court ordered that he CAN drink around my son after 2 duis and rehab. The system needs changed for these kids.

Ev - posted on 11/05/2016

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While I agree that 50/50 custody is not always best of things for all situations, what grounds do you have for this petition besides your thoughts?

Aimee - posted on 11/05/2016

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Read my petition and you will fully understand. To the people that have 50/50 custody and it works, I'm happy for you. However, not ALL situations should be 50/50.

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