Lie to a 4 year old about reason for illness?

Rebecca - posted on 06/29/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My husband told my 4 year old that she had to get her vaccinations. Which is good. He then told her the reason he was going to the doctor was because he didn't get his shots. (we don't know what is wrong with him, he was going in for an ultrasound-it could be anything') I say it was wrong to lie to her about that. People get sick and die even if they have all their shots. I think just telling her the shots protect her would have been good enough.What do you think?

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JuLeah - posted on 06/29/2011

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Nah, I would not have made that link ... would not have mentioned the doctors visit at all actually ... when you know something worth telling, then talk with her ....don't lie, just keep it on her level

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She is 4 not 14, and I don't see any harm in what you did. or it can be as simple as daddy is going to go have the doctor look at his tummy because daddy doesn't feel good. Just keep it simple. I would have probably avoided telling her it was for daddy's shots & said they were going to look at his tummy because I wouldn't want her to be scared of getting shots if your husband became ill.

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I don't agree w/ lying to your kids for any reason. If the entire, blunt truth isn't age appropriate... telling partial truth is fine, but out right lying? Not something I agree w/ under any circumstances.

Lauren - posted on 06/29/2011

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i AGREE!! CHILDREN DO NOT THINK THINGS LOGICALLY AS WE DO THEY HEAR WHAT THEY WANT TO SUCH AS "DONT GO IN THE STREET A CAR WILL HIT AND KILL YOU" ALL THEY HEAR IS KILL AND THEN THEY ARE TRAM,ATIZED AND THEY WILL BE AFRAID TO CROSS THE STREET THE RIGHT WAY OR EVEN AT ALL!! i AGREE WITH YOU !! LESSER SAID TO A YOUNGEN IS BETTER I THINK ...ON THE OTHER HAND DO NOT EVER LIE TO YOUR CHILD SUCH AS" WHEN YOUR LEAVING THE HOUSE AND YOU HAVE THE SITTER HIDE WITH YOUR CHILD THEN YOU LEAVE WITHOUT THEM LOOKING ...THEY WILL NOT TRUST YOU WHEN YOU ACTUALLY COME BACK!!

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