life after miscarriage

Dolc - posted on 06/05/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a lot to be thankful for, happy marriage, beautiful son, great family. I recently lost our second child at 11weeks. It was almost 3 months ago now. as much as I believe I'm over it, I believe miscarriage is for a reason, that baby was not ment to be. I've also noticed I've changed. I feel angry, I'm pushing friends away. I've felt I have had good reason as some have not been supportive.... but also I don't want to be around pregnant woman off new borns. I'm angry at myself cause I keep gaining weight and I'm no longer pregnant. I'm angry at myself for being grumpy/pushing husband way.... I really just hate the world and hate myself right now. only thing I don't hate is my aamazing son! no idea how woman cope losing their first child, must be so so hard to make it through.

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Kristin - posted on 06/06/2013

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Miscarriage is so hard, so first let me say how sorry I am. We lost our first baby 10 years ago and I still think about it at certain times of the year. Afterwards I was so sad and angry. And I couldn't figure out why, if it's as common as they say, other people handled it so much "better". I still don't have an answer for that part, but I ended up being diagnosed with depression. I had good support from friends and family, just needed a little help to get back to my normal self. We hadn't kept the pregnancy a secret, so it was hard when people would ask about it, but then again I didn't feel like we were dealing with it alone, either. We did do little things like naming the baby, keeping the ultrasound pic, b/c I needed the knowledge that he/she did exist and wouldn't be forgotten. Praying for you as you work through this too.

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Dolc - posted on 06/09/2013

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Thanks Kirstin, it has definetly helped that i am not alone and so many women have been through this. Since it happened so many friends/acquaintances/clients/support groups have opened up to me and told me there storey. It definitely helps to talk about it. Like you i told people i was pregnant so had to deal with everyone knowing, but the up side of that is all the support...
I hope i can get through the angry part soon and move on

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