Shanal - posted on 04/18/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I am a 30 year old single, working mother with a 5 year old son. I still live at home with the Grandparents (my mother and stepfather) because I cannot afford childcare along with the necessities to live for the both of us. I have been dealing with the temper tantrums and anger from him. I have tried, just like other moms, different discipline actions and talking with him just to see where his mind/emotions are. A number of times, the grandparents usually take it upon themselves to step in, telling him to listen to your mommy or correct me with the situation in front of him. I have tried numerous times to speak with them upon the subject, but there is a great deal of rejection to whatever I have to say. I do not feel like I am his mother, but more so his sister that he can talk to me any kind of way and be disrespected. On the other hand, I have noticed that he will listen to male figures over female.
Just recently, he has had some incidents at school to where he is not listening to his teachers (female authoritive figures). I had a conference with them based on this behaviour, and they asked me if I was having a power struggle with him, and I feel that I do due to our situation. They told me that this is not beneficial for either of us, or he will grow up not listening to authoritive figures. I am scared. I have to eventually release him to this world, and I am trying my hardest to do everything I can (including being consistent), but it's hard living with the Grandparents or even trying to communicate this with them..
Can this behaviour/situation be rectified? Is there anybody else going through or has gone through a similar situation?