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Michelle - posted on 02/24/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My husband and I have been together for 16 years. He was previously married for 2 years. He has not spoken to or seen his ex-wife's family since we have been together except some facebook posts with his ex- sister-in-law. His ex- mother-in-law passed away recently and he wants me to go to the viewing with him. His ex-wife never really liked me and occasionally contacted my husband after we were married to try and have a personal relationship him. My husband told her to stop calling him and she finally did. I do not see why he wants to go to the viewing in the first place, but I definitely don't want to go. Do you think I should suck it up and go with him? And what do you think about him wanting to go? I'm wondering if I am just seeing things from my own jaded perspective and could really use some other opinions. Thanks so much

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Amy - posted on 02/24/2012

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I would think that it would be fine for him to go I mean afterall they were part of his life at one point even if it wasn't for a long time. My husband and I went to my ex sil fathers funeral and it wasn't an amlicable divorce, her ex went, and so did my in laws. She was happy that we were there to support her.



I agree though that you shouldn't have to go especially if you were never close to the family. It's time for showing respect and allowing the family to start the grieving process I don't see how you being there benefits anyone.

Amanda - posted on 02/24/2012

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Allow your husband to go, these people were his family at some point in his life. Divorces dont mean you no longer care for those who were added to your family from marriage.

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Michelle - posted on 02/24/2012

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Thank you all for your opinions. I believe I will stick to my decision not to go and let him go alone. Thanks again!

Sarah - posted on 02/24/2012

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I think he should go pay his respects if he wants. I can understand why he would want you there for emotional support. Having said that, his exes mother just passed, why make it harder on HER by having you be there, it would make her uncomfortable, she should be allowed to grieve her mother without being put in an awkward position. He should go by himself.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/24/2012

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You going might make a lot of people very uncomfortable at their moms own funeral. No i do not thing you should go, but do understand why he would want you to be there to support him.

Michelle - posted on 02/24/2012

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Yes, I have already told him that he is welcome to go. He just keeps asking me to go with him and I am totally not comfortable with that. I just wanted to make sure my not wanting to go was the right decision since he asked me to. I didn't know her mom at all and while I went to school with and know all 3 daughters, I was not close to them and do not feel his ex-wife would appreciate me being there.

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