Danielle - posted on 06/03/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )
I am looking for benefits of all boy families.
I have a 4 year old boy, and am expecting another in September. We are only interested, and can afford two children. I was secretly hoping for a little girl, but after three years of infertility, and finally conceiving with treatments I am thankful to be pregnant at all.
I feel slightly stressed because I have two friends who are also expecting, and one has found out ( and is refusing to tell anyone), and the other doesn't know the sex.
I have a feeling that they will both get their desired gender (girls), and I am unsure how I will cope being the only one with another boy,
It is hard to be excited about this pregnancy. Since we've found out the sex, everyone seems to have lost their excitement for this baby's arrival. Everyone in our families were hoping for a girl.
I went to one of my friends baby showers today, and everyone was going on that my friend was destined to have a girl, and to "think pink", basically implying that a boy is undesired.. All the while I am sitting with my little boy in my belly. It made me feel angry, and upset. My friend doesn't even know the gender of the baby, and won't till it's born. What is so wrong with having another boy?!
I am trying my best to get excited for another boy, but I feel defeated at every turn. To make matters worse, it feels that I am in some sort of limbo waiting to find out the genders of my friends babies. I feel like if I could just know, then I could process it, and move on. I don't want to be blindsighted, and have it affect my bonding with my baby.
I am looking for benefits of having two boys! Did you ever have trouble dealing with people, and dissapointment in the gender? Do you think that it affected your bonding with your child?
Please be kind. I love my baby, and I am very thankful and excited to be able to be pregnant again. I just need some benefits to help put everything in perspective, so I can start preparing and get excited for my little boys arrival.