Claire - posted on 07/24/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I need help from other woman who have dealt with there husbands who have cheated on them and they have worked through it.
We have been married for 13 years, high school sweet hearts, both never been with another person until i was pregnant with our second child my husband had a one night stand and a child came from this. For four years now he has not had a relationship with this child because there was no dna test done i forgave him and we moved on thinking it was all going to work out the mother of the child was married at the time the child had a father... now we have learned that she is divorced and her ex-husband can not be apart of the child's life because he got in trouble with a miner (real winner) anyway my husband wants to do the right thing and had a dna test done and it is his child... i have come to terms with this and i agree with his decision to be a father to this child i believe it is the right thing to do.
ok now comes the problems
my husband wants to meet the child before he has to go to court to determine what kind of support and time frame he will have, witch is in a month he doesnt think meeting her for the first time in a court room will be good for the child and i agree. but he wants to meet her without me ( hes looking out for me and the child) how do i deal with that... just knowing that he will be in a room with this child and her mother well its not really the child its the mother its hard for me to deal with i know she is the mother of this child and is looking to do the right thing and have her father be a part of her life but i need to make her realize that this childs farther is MY husband ok it sounds like im jealous when i read that back but i think i have every right to be at this point
ok now comes my children they are 8 and 4 when do we tell them that they have a half sister i think it is right that they know
I believe everything will work out I would just like to know how or if anyone else has went through this and what they did and maybe give me some ideas on what they think we should do or what they might of done different or what else we should be worried about happening
i know we will need counseling too but we can not get in to see anybody or we have not found anyone at this time that is kinda why im doing this until we find someone
please only reply with positive comments that you think will help get me though this please and thank you