Looking for Mom's with kids that have bipolar/scitzophrenia?

Debbie - posted on 05/06/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Mhy son was diagnosed at the age of 4 with bipolar disorder. He is now 21 and it is even worse. They put him on ritalen for years and found that it makes the symtoms of bipolar worse. He has really had a hard time. Now he won't take meds at all. He self medicates with alcohol and drugs.

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Misty - posted on 01/29/2012

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Hi Nelda I am new to this site and would love someone who has seen alot. I am a mother of 2 girls, my oldest which is 7 has bipolar and odd and I also have bipolar2 with anxiety and depression. So any advice you have I would love to hear.



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We have a group here in Circle of Moms for Moms like you. I am trying to get people to chat that are already in it... Maybe you can check it out and see if there is anything to help you, or just to vent if you want. At one time or another we have all been at the end of our rope with our "special" kids, and so we understand. And who knows, maybe you can help someone else. We are listed under Moms of Kids with Bipolar and other Mood Disorders. Feel free to add me as a friend if you need help finding us.

Kimberly - posted on 05/07/2009

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I have three sons who are bipolar in one form or the other . My oldest son will not take meds and use s alchol and drugs to self medicate. It breaks my heart because I know what kind of life he could have if he would take his meds but we can't force them once they are of age. Sometimes I feel like hiding the meds in his food until he is controled again but then he would just stop taking them again. I wish there was someplace to go for help when they reach "adulthood" , but no one will help until something bad happens then everyone will ask why we didn't get them help. Myy second son had such a hard time growing up getting his illness under control that now he won't miss a dose and my thirteen year old we are fighting with just to start taking meds because he doesn't want to be like his brothers isn't that sad. I am surprised they gave your son Ritalin for bipolar it usually has the reverse side effect for people with bipolar. He really needs some type of mood stabilizer and there are many It just might take awhile to find the right one I will praay for you and your child

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Ppl with Bipolar tend to be very impulsive and can do things on the spur of the moment. We had trouble with my son a couple years ago, he would sneak out of the house in the middle of the night and just disappear, the cops would find him wondering the streets or having wandered up to someones house asking for food (He is also Mentally Handicapped). We had to hospitalize him 7 times that year before we were able to get him stabilized and we even placed him in a Residential Care Facility for a period of 3 months. Once he got stable though he has been just like a different person. He has not ran away any more and he takes his meds faithfully. I shudder to think what it would be like if he were to go off his medication, he was at the point where he was very agressive and uncontrollable. When they are adults though there isnt much you can do as far as "making" them take their meds. Its their body and they have to make that choice, short of having him commited, which is a lot of paperwork, I mean odds are once he got free he would stop taking them once again. I have a Father, a Mother, Two Cousins, My son and My daughter and myself who have Bipolar in one form or another, so I have seen it at its worst and Ive seen it at its best. Its a severe mental illness, but if a person refuses to medicate they will often turn to other substances to "self medicate". I wish you all the best and if any of you would like to talk about Bipolar, please feel free to message me.

Theresa - posted on 05/07/2009

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Wow! We have some of those problems with 6 kids we have adopted.
We had to give the 23 yo an ultimatum to either get and take the meds for BP or move

Elizabeth - posted on 05/06/2009

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I have bipolar and my son who is 23 yr and married has bipolar, ADD, & Schizophrenia along with Panic Disorder. He has been on meds and has made a choice to go with out. He has not made the choice of using drugs and alcohol though. It is sad to watch him though. He lives on the streets, uses people from place to place. I do not hear from them for months. They are at shelters sometimes. I never know what to expect. He gives blood twice a week for money and he cannot keep a job for nothing. He has poor hygiene as well. The only thing that I can do is be happy that he has called and to know he is alive and not dead. I pray a whole lot and just wish the best for him. He has never asked for help nor does he want our help. It breaks my heart. When they are of age we have no control of the life they have choosen. I have not heard from my son now since the beginning of Dec. I pray he will call soon and let me know that he is at least alive and doing okay. I never know. Sounds like we just need a support system to keep our own insanity of our children

Charisma - posted on 05/06/2009

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WHY IS THAT........my sister has bipolor also . She has never taking the meds. and uses drugs and alcohol for the problem. Shes find with it but when it rears off man shes a BIG MESS. What can we do about it??? I need an answer.

Dawn - posted on 05/06/2009

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My daughter is 14 and is diagnosed bipolar after some severe cutting issues and 2 in patient hospital stays 2 years ago. She lives with her father with I feel is a huge part of this issue. Get ahold of me if you would like to chat. I don't know anyone else who deals with this issue either.

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Im suprised they put him on Ritalin for Bipolar? That is usually used for ADHD Patients. I have a long family history of people with Bipolar and I have an 18 yr old son that has Bipolar 1, he is on a cocktail of meds just to keep him stable, he takes Lithium, Seroquel, Invega and Trileptal. Bipolar ppl need to be on a Mood Stabilizer as well as an Antidepressant, just using an Antidepressant alone can trigger Mania in them. My father also had it very, bad and I have a daughter who has it as well and I myself have Bipolar 2, mine, nor my daughters is severe enough to have to use Medication, unlike my son and my father is and were. See ppl that are Bipolar like the high they get from being in a Mania phase so they refuse to medicate because it takes the high feeling away.

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