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Chris - posted on 04/19/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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PA state residents-Family Court -Custody

I have had this female judge that is biased against me. I have noticed her slightly flirt with my daughters' father. I was screamed at for addressing her as "ma'am" while my mother addressed her as ma'am within minutes and no screaming at my mother. He has addressed her as ma'am and has never been put in his place. No male judge ever disciplined me for addressing him as "sir".
I have been physically and emotionally abused by this man for over a decade now, I had a domestic abuse advocate in court with me and this judge told her to get out.
Recently my daughter reported to several authority figures he best her on her head with a rolled up newspaper until she cried, ran off and his from him. CYS and the Judge do not believe a rolled up newspapesr as a weapon!!!! Hasn't anyone seen up Jason Bourne in the knife fight? Jason beat the man that had the knife with a rolled up magazine. There are self defense classes teaching people how to defend themselves with a rolled up newspaper/magazine. Paper is a wood byproduct.
He has also told her " Don't tell your mom or else" with many other related versions.
I am collecting SSDI and my Masters degree: the funds are not there to hire any lawyer. Legal aid does not accept custody cases and pro bono is 40 an hour. 20 hours of representation is a month of income.
I could not even protect her by obtaining a PFA.
This past Friday court again, he filed contempt on me and yes it was dismissed with MY BURDEN of proof not his.He also lied on stand and said his 12 year old daughter is a liar. The judge asked me why have I not filed a modification? My thoughts were whats the point you are looking out for his interests not my daughtersor mine...
My daughter has been in counseling since the beating incident and the doctors recommended no more visitation or supervised visitation as Devy was deemed to be mature enough to make that decision. The judge refused to even see the recommendaions, but instead started screaming I am the judge I make the rules I overrule CYS and all doctors. I will have you arrested!!!! Then she took my daughter into her chambers without any legal counsel or child advocate. My child came out crying. She said that lady is going to make me go with that man! I am afraid of him. He is going to hurt me.
I need help getting a new family judge appointed in that county or a changevof venue in my county for a new judge.
The behaviors I have been observing for years under this judge have been harmful and could be detrimental to my child's wellbeing.I have to force my child to go with him even though I know I could be putting her in harms way because this judge is God or I will go to jail: even though I have CYS and psychological professionals advising me otherwise. I have to send her next weekend.

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Jodi - posted on 04/20/2015

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You just have to keep gathering your evidence. But unfortunately, that modification is going to be needed. The judge can't judge matters against the current court orders unless someone files for a modification. It sounds like you weren't in court for a modification but for contempt of the order, if I read this correctly?

You can't fight a contempt of the orders with evidence of abuse if you aren't also prepared to file for a modification. If I were a judge at a hearing of how you contravened your court orders on the basis of abuse, but you weren't also prepared to file for modification, I would seriously question whether the abuse of the child was really bad enough for you to just ignore your court orders. Can you see why the judge needs you to file a modification to hear your evidence appropriately? I don't see that the judge is biased against you, but is following the procedures that need to be followed in accordance with the law.

I'm glad you are making the effort to file the modification. I do understand that a lawyer costs too much for you, but your daughter needs to be a priority. Without a lawyer it could be difficult for you to win, especially if he has the money for a good lawyer.

Chris - posted on 04/19/2015

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A single disabled low income female in Family court with an abuser is the worst scene because there are no protections from being slandered and 51% can be accepted as truth not like criminal which is without a doubt 100%. If the judge has made a judgement about me i can never have a fair hearing. this is called judicial biased. every human makes judgements and are biased either by
learned behavior
or by experience
it is nature.

Chris - posted on 04/19/2015

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I am going to drive the 100 mile round trip to the courthouse tonorrow to moddify custody and support.

Chris - posted on 04/19/2015

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There is so much more The trigeminal neuralgia affects me the eorst in stressful situations annd this has not been taken into consideration because Family Court can use that against me. in 1998 i had to learn how to walk again how to add and subtract and so on... i can't afford any lawyer even at peo bono rates and legal aid does not assist custody cases.
i said in previous post I'm g
oing to driive

Chris - posted on 04/19/2015

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She was abused and i reported it to CYS along with several other agencies. i went to legal aid and she said she didbt have enough evidence to get a PFA for her. this isn't about me there is so much more to this story that is overwhelming for me and for anyone i try to tell. i have experienced enough being stuck in the system: being (non visible) disabled with a very rare neurological disease and 7 credits shy of my masters degree. i know enough that my rights and my daughters rights are being violated 1st Amendment and 14th Amendment of the Constitution and the declaration of Human Rights UN. We have not been permitted to practice our Catholic religion CCD classes and she can not be active in sports that require her to be present on his weekends. The judge even let him out of taking her to swimming lessons every other weekend. He has never tsken her to the doctor's or dentist. HE has never attended a Patent teacher conference or attended any school eventsother then trying to tske her out of school 3 hours early wirhout my knowledge which did not happen. He had to wait.

Jodi - posted on 04/19/2015

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But you are the one who is the victim. If your child is a victim, then have him arrested for assaulting her. Go to the police. Get it on record. But you can't control his access to his child through the family court based on his abuse of you.

Chris - posted on 04/19/2015

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A victim of domestic abuse for over a decade going up against the abuser for 9 years in front of this judge; all thevlies he has told and I am always in protection mode.. He has purposely manipulated the judge. Even if I go and try yet again to modify for our protection : it is family court. I have no protections in comparison to criminal courts. I have been victimized for years and I will never be free of his control until she turns 18 or he kills me.

Jodi - posted on 04/19/2015

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Until YOU file for a modification, you do need to send your child with the father. The judge isn't being biased. The judge is following the law. As it stands, your orders say your daughter's father has rights and visitation, and your daughter must attend. If you want that stopped, you ARE going to have to file.

Sarah - posted on 04/19/2015

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Why can't you petition for a change in judge? I think you can get the forms from you county clerk.

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