Loosing Control

Errin - posted on 08/29/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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im in desperate need of some advice, my husbands children where forced(according to them) to move in with us a year ago now when their mom lost everything. The youngest and I had a rough go at it, but now we are fantastic! the oldest whom i love dearly- disprespects me and my own daughter on a regular basis, I can not love this girl anymore than i already have. but her behavior has put a HUGE strain on the ENTIRE household and her father and I relationship. I would never ask him to choose, however i feel like there are 2 different families living in the same house and only one of the memebers is the problem. I can not deal with her antics any longer but i am not willing to loose the rest of my family for her either. and no her moving back with her mother is not an option. i feel like i am loosing it, my heart is broken and im becoming numb.

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Errin - posted on 08/29/2012

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She tries to pit the two youngest (step sisters, ages 10 and 11) against one another, she is 15 now, we have grounded her taken things away at one point she had nothing but a bed and dresser in her room. She does not care about any of these things. I have tried spending one on one time with her, her dad made a "date" night with just her. We tried talking to her mom about spending more time with her (which never happened). Tried counseling with just her and w/ the family. The counselor told us after 3 months that she had done NONE of the work he asked her to do and is unwilling to talk, suggested another counselor which we tried same result. She tells my daughter that she doesn't love her and she is not her sister, she lies, manipulates, starts fights between her mom and dad and occasionally tries to involve myself in them. I have done all the same things for her as i would for my own daughter, matter of fact I do have my daughter in counseling for these issues and some of her own regarding her dad.

Dove - posted on 08/29/2012

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How old is she? What exactly is she doing? What is being done by you and your husband about the behavior now? What would you be doing about the behavior if she were your biological child?

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