Loosing Custody of your Child

Mary - posted on 07/20/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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How would you feel if out of the blue you had to give up the custody of your child or loosing custody. And the most shocking and sadest part that the people who are suppose to love and cherish you betrayed you with no remorse.The two people who betrayed you and the trust you had fron them are your own Mother and your Husband the man you you swore for better or for worse till death do us apart..
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Ev - posted on 07/23/2014

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Kristy~~You and I have that in common where we made the choice to let the kids go live with dad for whatever reasons it was to keep them safe and not to cause any more hardships than they had to deal with. Its not easy not seeing the kids every day but you do get used to it and another thing is when you are together, they have you all to themselves. You can give them your whole time. And I can tell you after 12 years of this, I have been closer to my kids than I thought I would have been.

Dove - posted on 07/23/2014

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I would be completely devastated, but then... it's only been me for half of my oldest child's life and all of my youngest child's life... so THEY would be devastated even more than I would since life as they know it would completely end... which would devastate me even more.

I haven't ever done anything that would risk me losing custody though.

Kristy - posted on 07/23/2014

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I chose to give up custody of my daughter because my husband at the time was literally going crazy. I didn't know what he was going to do so out of the best interest of my daughter, I let her go stay with her dad. Now that the marriage is over and have moved on in life, I wish that I could have her back because frankly, I miss seeing her face every day and it's hard to only see her a few times a month.

I don't really think that anyone loses custody out of the blue... things have to happen... No one just walks in and says "I'm taking the kids... bye." Most people have reason to want custody of kids and then they prove the reason.

Ev - posted on 07/21/2014

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"Amiable" is a good word but dad was not amiable much of the time about things. I still get funny looks when I tell people of my story because they can not understand what I did and why I did it. Its funny how people think that a mom who has the least in the custody arrangement is a bad mom some how and that is not always the case.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/21/2014

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Evelyn, your situation was different, and you were wonderfully strong through it. You could set the example as far as 'amiable arrangements' go!

The OP??? I'm wondering.

Ev - posted on 07/21/2014

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I have to agree with the ladies. I did not give up custody but I had to take joint custody with my ex for the kids we have together. IT was done because I was not financially able to fight for full custody and did not want to be back and forth in court for the same reason over and over making the kids feel like I did not care enough to do the right thing for them. My daughter also wanted to stay in her old school too. We AGREED out of court to do this. It was not the choice I wanted to make but at the time I had no other options. It was not a case of loosing custody or giving it up, it was a case of what was best for the children. At the same time I have to ask what you are hinting at with this?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/21/2014

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I guess it would depend on what I did that was so stupid that my mother felt that she needed to help my husband get my kids safely away.

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