Losing a Baby

Ashley - posted on 03/21/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




I lost my daughter at one month old in August 2014. I am still heavily grieving the loss of her. I found out in December that I was expecting. I am due in August 2015. Very close to her date of death. I am trying to deal with the emotions (excessive hormones) in pregnancy and the loss of my daughter. I feel as though I am watching myself from the out side on an extremely chaotic emotional roller coaster. Although I have support from family and friends, no one truly understands the way I feel. I also have an amazing four year old boy who is ecstatic to be a big brother again. He has helped get me through the emotions. But I know I hide my feelings so much for him & for others and now they are finally coming out. (Being pregnant & hormonal does not help)
I am truly excited for another baby. I have gotten past the feelings of guilt of "replacing her". Because she will never be replaced that is a fact. However, I'm filled with anxiety, tension, and fear every single day. I constantly am worrying something is going to happen. I'm constantly thinking of the what if's. And I know I am driving the ones I love crazy.
We decided not to find out what we're having, because we have mixed feelings on if it is a girl. Anytime I think of having this baby, I cry. (when I'm alone of course)
Has anyone gotten through having a baby so soon after losing one?


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Chana - posted on 04/01/2015




I am truly sorry for your loss. It is soon but you have another little miracle growing inside you that needs you to stay strong and healthy. Have you considered going to grieve counseling because although it is very normal to grieve if you are having excessive stress because of it that is not healthy for your unborn baby. I have never been in your shoes so I will not pretend to know how you feel but my thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult yet joyful time.

Raye - posted on 04/01/2015




It has to be a very difficult time for you.
Stay strong and love that little miracle that it growing inside you.

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