Losing a child
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E - posted on 09/19/2016
My heart aches for you, I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through. I have a friend that lost one of her twin daughters (16) to brain cancer while in high school. She missed out on Prom, cheerleading, and just being a teenager during treatments. During the losing process, she reached out to a local support group for grieving parents sharing in the pain and understanding of loss that helped her over time, and gave her a safe haven to get needed support, since she was divorced. Sometimes friends are a great support to but, according to my friend it is so heavy and all consuming sadness, it is hard to put it on other people that do not know what you are going through. She attended the group for over a year after the loss of her daughter. I don't believe anyone gets over losing a child. Over time though she began to take solace in the fact that she did everything in her power to love and support her daughter through to the end. Although still painful 8 years after the loss, she does associate her daughters life with celebration, and maintains a daily journal talking to her daughter, and remembering, and documenting her daughters life blessing for the time she was on earth with her, she says that gives her peace. She also came to believe that her daughter wanted her mom to be able to move forward after her death, almost like the mom "gave herself" permission to let go of the guilt she had for still living, I noticed my friend started feeling that way about a year after her daughters death. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I hope you stay strong, please take care.
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