lost of custody

Victoria - posted on 03/20/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hi I am a stressed out mother my 11 year old son whom I have shared joint custody with his father has been I feel ripped out my arms.the courts just made our son live with him doing the week & I get 3 weeks a month.we shared joint custody which we still do but he has him more now which is killing me he won saying our son is failing in school but how can you blame me we have same amount of time.he has a lot of family who helps him with court documents I have none to help me please please if anyone knows of a person or place in CA where I can get help please help me get my time back I feel hopeless and our son hates it there dad & girlfriend are constantly bashing me to son.

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Sarah - posted on 03/22/2015

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IF you truly believe he is using cocaine, petition for a drug test. Expect to take one yourself as well.

Etta - posted on 03/20/2015

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Aww Hon that has to be hard on you and your son. The system is not always fair and it is a shame the children have to suffer for it... I cant imagine how it must feel to be going throgh that...wish there was something I could say to make the pain go away but I know nothing will right now. Just know that I will be saying a prayer for you and Your Son.

Connie - posted on 03/20/2015

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Hang in there! It isn't easy being separated from our children and certainly dealing with bad mouthing isn't a walk in the park but absolutely do not bad mouth in return. Rise above it! Prayers for you and your son💞

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Ev - posted on 03/22/2015

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You would have to take it to court gain I would imagine but you would have to be able to prove he was doing it with like police records of arrest, court documents of his indictment, and even maybe conviction. If you do really fear it, you could call family services and have them check it out.

Ev - posted on 03/21/2015

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I know how it feels to not have your kids with you all the time like you had hoped it would be. It takes time to get used to them being gone with dad. I had to make a choice 13 years ago about the same thing. I let them go because it was in their better interest and frame of mind. it was not that I did not want them with me because they were my world. You need to find a new avenue of something to do to get your mind of this all the time such as a new hobby, reading a good book, taking a class....anything to help the time pass. In time you will get used to it. I can not give you a figure to go by because each person is different. It took me over a year maybe two to get used to this new life without my kids at my side 24 /7.

Victoria - posted on 03/20/2015

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Thank you I really appreciate you all this is very hard this is my first time not having one of my children in my care for 5days a week its very hard and this system is so unfair.

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