lost on what to do please need advice

Barbie - posted on 05/28/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I'm a 27 yr old stay at home mom I have there kids 8 4 and 8 months. I have been with my husband 11 yrs we been married 3. I have been diagnosed with major depression it literally taken over my life. I been to counseling and on meds but none of it worked only made me worse. I'm lost on what to do. I'm not sure if I should take it further and go to a place for a while or what but I know I can't continue like this. I'm ruining myself and definitely my relationship. I can't find myself making love to him anymore and its really pissing him off and I kinda understand but its tech not my fault he don't understand how I truley feel inside it all started about 8 months ago I had a horrible thought about my middle kid and it got the best of me and tech its not the thought I can't get past its the could of and should of. It really got the best of me now I feel like a horrible person and guilty about everything. I see the worst in everything and think the worst about everything and worry constantly about everything. I talked to him about my issues and I believe that only made things worse.


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You said it started about 8 months ago, which was about the time your youngest was born. You said you've been diagnosed, so I assume your doctors considered that it could be postpartum depression, but if they didn't consider it, make sure they do because it would be treated much differently than regular depression.

Also, 8 months feels like a long time when you are battling depression, but in terms of treatment, it's not all that long, especially if you let it go for a month or so before seeking treatment. There are so many ways to treat depression, and you really need to give each one more than a couple of months to work--you can't get over depression overnight, or even over a fortnight. It takes time.

Talk with your mental health doctor about committing yourself for inpatient treatment. If you are suicidal or thinking about hurting your children, you need to get more intensive help than you are getting right now, and you may need to stop spending time alone with your children until you get this under control.

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