lying 8 year old

Kelina - posted on 05/29/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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This might be kinda long. So my sister had her third baby in february, he's a little over 3 months now. Her two other kids are a son 8, and a daughter, 5 almost 6. Her son has apparently been lying to her non stop and won't stop lying even when confronted with the truth(ex. homework). He will doggedly pursue his story no matter what. So last night she appealed to her friends and family on facebook. Now a little about my sister and her kids-this behaviour is exactly like my sister. She's 27 now and still lies like this so I can understand where my nephew learned it. She's been like this for as long as I can remember. Her oldest has also often been treated differently because he's not "dad's" biological son, she met her hubby when he was 1. I'm not sure if he's aware of that fact though, bio dad's not in the picture. Now my immediate reaction is to want to tell her to stop lying herself, but somehow, I don't think that would go over too well. I'd really like to avoid fighting with her and help her if possible, but I'm not sure that there's anything I can really suggest considering the situation. Any ideas?

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Sal - posted on 05/30/2012

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Give the son an anmisty on past lies for a day or what ever period they decide, where he gets to tell the truth about his past fibs without fear of punishment (and this is the hard bit he must really trust that he wont get punished) after this period let him know you are proud of him being honest but in the future if he is caught in a lie there is a hasher penalty for the lie than the offence. Eg if he gets a 1 day ban from his xbox for not doing home work if is an additional 2 days for lying about it... It has always been a more servere reaction for lying than the action at my house

Dove - posted on 05/29/2012

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If she's a liar and he knows it... probably nothing will cure it and punishment type reactions could potentially make it worse by building resentment in him.

I hope someone has some creative ideas on something that might help!

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