Sniper - posted on 06/18/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have an 8 year old that HATES going to her dad she has been telling me for almost 2 yrs. Being she is so young I was not sure if she was playing "both" sides.We were married 14 years divorced when daughter was 1 1/2. He is ALWAYS right so long as I do what he wants and gives in to his demands all is good. Her stepmom (i cound not further from jelous of) I am happy and married for five years. Her step mom interfers with EVERYTHING in all our business down to which school she should attend and who her teacher will be. She lies all the time they manipulate our girl and then say it is me. I have voice mails from them cussing me and threating to kill me which my daughter heard because they were yelling so loud. The step mom called me the "C" word and wanders why my daughter wants nothing to do with her. The dad flips over tables holds tables over his current wife and threatens to kill her IN FRONT OF OUR DAUGHTER. I am going for sole custody of daughter due to the extreme fighting over there and cussing using the "f" world every other word like everyday slang. My daughter goes into hyperventalation when she has to go to her dads that is not normal? right? Yes I know I am the mom but im real nervouse about court and dont need people telling me like in other threads I have read "you must be insecure" was not directed toward me however I would like some mature imput on this. How can I trust her dad and stepmom when she is crying to point of hyperventalation? Also cops have been to my home due to them and then they lie to their family about me TOTAL LIES! So, everyone of his sisters and the step moms family (which i could give two cents what they think of me they never met me) all cuss me talk bad about me in front of my 8 year old daughter. No matter how mad I get I NEVER speak ill of any of them. I have all physical proof to back up everything I have stated. They have nothing because I dont bother any of them. The stepmom drills my daughter all the time! We have had 50/50 custody up to this point but so much has changed in 7 years. Does this make me a bad person? I dont care about support or "winning" it is about safty and stability of daughter. She is NOT happy there. They act like perfect family in front of others but it is behind closed doors I KNOW I LIVED IT 14 YEARS I AM NOT JELOUS OR WANT TO BE IN HER STEPMOM'S SHOES. I have a real gentlemen for a husband and is very good to my girl. I have a lot of mixed emotions as you can tell from this I guess....loll...... I do not want to keep her from her father but if you only knew the entire story. One of his sisters called me a "incubator" but she is such a CHRISTIAN AND GOES TO CHURCH SUCH AS HE STEPMOMS FAMILY. I am a christian as well I go to church but not every week but we have bible study here at home and in a group. Am I doing wrong for trying to insure her safty? What if the next table he flips over hits our daughter by mistake? Sorry so long.