Maiden names

Merry - posted on 01/09/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )




Question for all you married ladies!

1-Did you like your maiden name?

2-Did you like your fiancee's last name?

3-Did you consider keeping your maiden name, or hyphenating?

4a-How long did it take for you to subconsciously think of yourself with your married name?

(like today I dropped something and said in my head 'way to go Laura Hoffmann" -Hoffmann being my married name)

4b-Or do you still slip up and write, say, or think of yourself with your maiden name?


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Krista - posted on 01/10/2011




1. I liked my maiden name, but it was frustrating because it is very easily mispronounced and misspelled.
2. Yes, I liked my fiance's last name, primarily due to its ease of pronunciation.
3. I considered keeping my maiden name, but figured that a) my brother could carry on the family name, b) I'm not super-close to my dad anyway, and c) I hadn't established myself professionally to the point where my name was inextricably linked to my accomplishments. I never considered hyphenating -- it would have just sounded too awkward and too long.
4. I never write or say my maiden name, but yes, every so often if I do something stupid, I'll say to myself "Good one, Chiasson."

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I like my maiden name. I like my husbands name. I didn't consider hyphenating because that drives me nuts when people do that. (sorry) However, I did keep my maiden name and do use my husband name. ;) I dropped my middle name and put my maiden name as my middle name, then took DH last name. :) (I checked with the folks to be sure there would be no hurt feelings first. You can always keep middle name and just add the maiden as a 2nd middle name.)

Tracy - posted on 01/10/2011




I love my maiden name, in fact I dropped my middle name and used that instead.

His name was ok. A lot shorter than mine

I just dropped my middle name and put my maiden name there instead. Didn't change that initial anyway

I'm divorced from that man now, and legally have taken back my maiden name. I still use my married name for work and my son's school. It's just a massive pain in the butt to change email, business cards, and may cause confusion with his school. It doesn't bother me too much. Of course when I told my friends/family I was ending the marriage they all promptly went back to calling me by my maiden name. I have friends who get confused when they hear my former name used to refer to me. LOL!

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1. I never felt strongly for or against my maiden name. It was actually an "Americanized" version of my dad's family name because they changed it when they moved (my great grandparents on my dad's side immigrated from Denmark), so it's really not an accurate name to begin with.

2. Eh, not really. It's kinda plain, but there's a reason for it! My hubby's paternal grandparents were Russian political dissidents and when they ran from Russia to America they had to change their name so the Russian government couldn't find them. They actually picked ther new last name at random out of the phone book. My hubby and I have actually contemplated changing it back to the original Russian last name, but decided it may be too complicated for the kids.

3. Nope, I never even thought about it! Even as a young girl I was looking to the day that I would get married and change my name. I'm not sure why...

4a. I thought of myself with my married name even before the wedding! I had my employer order my business cards with my married name when I first started working there 3 months before the wedding. :)

4b. Nope. It took my mom a while to write my married name though... I've been married almost 4 years (April) now and our Christmas card this last year was the first time I can rmember her addressing the envelope to me with my married name.

Betty - posted on 01/09/2011




I liked and still do like my maiden name
my hubs last name is okay, tho im a bit mm that its his adopted stepdads lastname ...who he hates.
I considered it but took his,
I feel in love with having a new name, new idenity, new life.
It took me a little while to get used to writting a new last name.
I havent wrote the wrong lastname in years ( been married 4)

Sherri - posted on 01/09/2011




Well it was mine for 25yrs so ya I liked it.

Yes I would not have gotten married and not taken my husbands name.

Yes I like my husbands last name just fine.

No as I said I would not have gotten married and not taken his name and I could not hyphenate my name or I would have been watered down Champagne as my maiden name was Waters, married name Champagne.

I don't remember how long it took anymore I have been married for 13yrs.

I never slip up, write, say or think of myself with my maiden name. Actually weird to even say it anymore because I had my married name for so long now.

Callie - posted on 01/09/2011




1- Yes I like my maiden name

2- My husbands name is ok (Armbruster)

3- I kept my maiden name. I figure I've had that name for 25 years so why change it now. Changing it wouldn't make our marriage any stronger or change our relationship. So I decided to keep it. My husband was ok with it. I'm his wife whether we have the same last name or not.

4) Didn't have to remember a different name but it took awhile to remember to call him my husband instead of my boyfriend (we dated 7 years).

A bonus we pay our car tags and taxes at different times during the year (Kansas goes by last name). I'm listed first on my car and he's listed first on his car.

Amy - posted on 01/09/2011




I am married. I liked my maiden name. But...what a pain to hyphenate. Forget that. If I was accepting my husband and he was accepting me, we figured what names we had didn't matter. He asked if I wanted it changed or not. I said I'd take anything of his - especially his name. I was writing Kruse as my last name as soon as I was engaged to practice. I even wrote it accidentally before we were married. I guess I REALLY wanted to be married. :D I have never written my maiden name since. I have gotten mail with my maiden name and am like,,,, ha, that was FOREVER ago!! The only time I think of my maiden name is when i get that mail or I get out my old poems I wrote when I was under the other name.

Stifler's - posted on 01/09/2011




1 - no
2 - not really
3 - yes for the convenience factor
4 - i just changed my name on fb the day after and have thought of myself as emma nielson ever since.

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1. I love my maiden name
2. My husband's last name is not bad
3. I considered keeping my maiden name and even hyphenated it for awhile but signing my name and as a nurse I do it alot at work it was becoming more work to sign all those names, lol.
4a. It took me awhile to think of myself by my married name. It took me at least a year to get use to calling myself by my married name.
4b. There are times when I do slip up but nowhere near as often as I did when I initially changed it.

Merry - posted on 01/09/2011




1- yes I did like my maiden name! It was Reilly and I always liked the Irish side of me, and I liked how it was spelled the Irish way. Only thing I didn't like was that when I said my name, Laura Reilly, it sounded like the 'r's were all running together.
2- yes I loved my fiancee's last name, Hoffmann, and it was cool cuz even though I like my Irish heritage best, I am predominantly German and Hoffmann is a strong german name!
3- no I never considered keeping my name or hyphenating them. First off I was happy and excited to join his family, and I wanted us to be completely the same in our names. Also I was being treated completely awfully by my dad, abused, kicked out, ignored etc so I was quite eager to not share his name!
4- definitely 'a' as you can see from the phrase up there, I was writing my new name without thought after about 6 months, and soon around then I was also thinking of myself as Laura Hoffmann even in my subconscious thoughts. We have been married 3.5 years now. And we have two little Hoffmann kids as well!

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