Mama's Boy fo 30 years

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Hi everyone,
30 years ago my husband left me on my wedding night to go back to his parents house.
He is now 55 years old and still have severe co depency on them. They are in their 80's and my husband work very long hours go to their house first then mine. He goes on weekends too. I know they are old and sometimes sick but he never spends time with me and my 2 sons. I am ready to file divorce paper this week. I stayed with him cause I really love him. I am a Christian but I just can't do this anymore. He says he will divorce me because I don't let him go to his parents house for hours on end.

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Ev - posted on 09/10/2013

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What I do not get is that you allowed this to go on. No marriage is worth being put on the back burner so to speak. If you were so unhappy on your wedding night, I would have annulled or divorced. I would not have put up with his doing this. He apparently was not ready to leave his parents and be a husband no matter how many good times you have had during the relationship. He even threatened you with divorce if you did not allow him to go to his parents.....that says a lot right there. To me it seems a waste of life.

Jodi - posted on 09/10/2013

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Wake up. This is NOT problems with the in-laws. Your husband owns this. He is responsible for his actions, not the in-laws.

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Dani - posted on 09/11/2013

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When the parents are gone (not to be flippant about it, but realistic--they are in their 80's) and you have your husband all to yourself, how will you feel about that? Will you be truly happy and fulfilled with this man knowing what his priorities were for 30 years or will you always be hurt by that and have it in the back of your mind, even during the good times? I'm not judging (believe me, i've got my own issues!). I know it's hard to split from someone you've built a life with, no matter how bad the situation. All the best to you.

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Yep I thought he would change. And he actually had changed from going to his mom's house every single day to 1 to 2 days per weeks. Still it difficult when his family live in the same town. He refuses to move because his parents are in their 80's in poor health. He says he's getting ready for them to pass....I don't know. He have a great marriage except for this...All his siblings live in the same town too although I do not have a relationship with them. What I did through the years is separate myself from his family.
When he goes he goes by himself.

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I almost did.....I almost had the marriage annualed.
But the minister talked me out of it a 22 year old at the time.
We had some really great years just the constant problem with
the inlaws.

Jodi - posted on 09/10/2013

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I think I would have filed the papers on the wedding night when he walked out that door. Seriously, who does that?

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