marijuana and my 17th year old

Maria - posted on 01/10/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )

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my 17 year old researched marijuana use for 3 months before deciding to use or not. After all the researching he did he came to the conclusion and belief that there is absolutely nothing wrong with smoking it. He started about a month ago. When I found it I was heartbroken. But he honestly explained the medical side to marijuana use, the legal side, and what he truly believes(its ok). I'm not sure what to do or how to handle this. He smokes it when he goes to his friends(girl) house. She doesnt smoke but her brother and parents do. I know Parents? Yes, her parents smoke with them. I wish I can go to a mothers hand book and look under a chapter for what to do when you find your 18 year old .....Help, any suggestions?

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Jenny - posted on 01/10/2012

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He made an educated choice so there is not much you can do. I would emphasize the dangers of adolescent use on their rapidly changing brains. Find some good sources to back you up. Just be glad he took the time to look it up and didn't jump right in. With that kind of attitude I doubt he will be doing any more dangerous drugs.

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Lise - posted on 01/12/2012

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These are the images we studied in college:

http://www.amenclinics.com/brain-science...



I just watched a TV show on the effects of drugs - I'll see if I can find the link for that as well. I graduated almost 10 years ago and no longer have a lot of the stuff I studied.



Is pot as dangerous as other illegal drugs (cocaine, meth, etc.)? No. Absolutely not. Is it still dangerous? From my studies, I believe so.

Maria Gue - posted on 01/12/2012

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Thank you Brittany for the web sites. I'll be doing some reading/research.

Lise - posted on 01/11/2012

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@Amanda:

"When pot is not abused it isnt harmful"



Can you state research behind that? I took drug classes back in college, and what was shown was that anything you smoke is harmful to your body. Every single time. We also studied that it, pot, kills brain cells (I'll look and see if I can find the info - I think it's on an old computer).

Maria Gue - posted on 01/11/2012

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Thank you all for your feedback. Please keep it coming. I'm sorry I stated he's 17 he is actually 18. He is in his first year of college. I explained that even though he might not agree in marijuana being illegal it is still illegal nd if he has it in the car nd a cop stops them they have every right to search the car. You go to jail, you stay in jail. His life will never be the same.

Cindy - posted on 01/11/2012

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It's really hard when they are 18...live one day at a time...one problem at a time. Hold your ground for what you believe. Except for maybe medical pain, there is no reason to be smoking the stuff. My heart and prayers go out to you and yours.

Chrystal - posted on 01/11/2012

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I'm in the minority of my family in that I don't and have never done any drugs. I've heard all the arguments as to why it's not bad for your health and why the laws are wrong. But no one can ever answer my question of why it's ok to break the law just because you don't like it. That's my stance on pot it doesn't matter if it doesn't hurt your body it stills hurts your life because it's illegal and is getting high worth getting arrested? He's going to college soon I would guess is it worth possibly losing scholarships or future jobs? That's just silly to me to need to get high so much you risk damaging other parts of your life. Maybe he'd never get busted but it's a real possibility and has he really thought about how that could affect his life plan? There isn't really anything you can do to stop him as you pointed out he's almost 18. Really all you can do is set ground rule that it never comes in your home if you don't agree with it. I set a further limitation at my home that no one is allowed to be high at my home even if they didn't do the drug there I don't want to deal with it in my home but that's just me. Good luck

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2012

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I suggest you also do some research, your son is actually right. When pot is not abused it isnt harmful. Though I dont agree with parents getting high with their children, there really isnt much you can do but leave the conversation open and none judgemental. You would be shocked if you actually knew just how many people use pot a day, many of your friends do. Personally I would much rather hear that my teen is smoking pot then drinking.



As for someone claiming medical pot is mainly used for late stages of cancer, you should also do some more research. Pot is used for MS, Fybro, depression, ADHD, and many other reasons.

Krista - posted on 01/11/2012

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It's time to do your own research. Occasional marijuana use won't harm the brain, but as a teenager, with a still-developing brain, chronic use can definitely have long-term effects.

I would say to also do your research. Use reputable medical sources that have been peer-reviewed, and sit down with him. Say, "I appreciate that you took your time to make an informed decision, rather than just jumping into this. However, I've also done some research, and I have some concerns. I'd like to sit down with you to look it over and discuss it." Treat him with respect, and you'll probably get a much more receptive audience.

Michelle - posted on 01/10/2012

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It sounds like he has only read the research he wanted to (ony the "good" ones). The medical side is mainly to releive the pain for people in the last stages of cancer etc.

It might be good to do some research of your own on the bad side effects and show him, but to be honest, if he has made up his mind there's not a lot you can do except reporting him to the police. That's if you really want to scare him but his friends parents will slao get in trouble since he smokes it over there.

Maria Gue - posted on 01/10/2012

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Thank you Jenny. The documentaries he showed me confirms his belief that marijuana does not hurt the brain at all. He had an answer for everything I said.

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