Marriage

Bre - posted on 06/02/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Anyone else's husband change into a mean man after you got married and had a baby?

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Bre - posted on 06/02/2016

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We were engaged and then two months later I found out I was pregnant, so we pushed the wedding forward. He had been nothing but sweet to me and took care of me up until I had our daughter.
He then made us move for his job the day she was released from the hospital a week after her birth. He didn't give me a chance to recooperate, even though we had a week left on our place and could've moved later on. I just let that one go.
But, now ever since I have had my daughter, he has racked up a ton of debt in our names, even when I advised against it knowing it was not a smart move. He got mad when I said I wanted to go back to work, even though I had to because of the debt. He still refuses to work extra hours to help us out, and gets very angry if I bring up me getting a second job then.
He hardly does any work around the house, and only does it if I ask him to, after he mumbles under his breath an throws a fit. he says he "does enough at work".
He was mentally and physically absent from our daughters life until when she was about 5 months old, and only then did he realized because I told him she looks at him like he's a stranger. Even now though, he barely looks at her and I still do things 95% of the time with her.
He refuses to visit my family at all, he only wants to visit his. He has pushed everyone away but expects me to stay and be his emotional crutch all of the time, and it is getting exhausting.
There is so much more, and I really want to make our marriage work, but I don't know if this is a phase or will get better.
We tried counseling but now he is refusing to go anymore, and states that I don't "need' him, so he doesn't care anymore. I had to learn how to not need him since he checked out after we moved for 5 months.

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