Marriage Changed Since Baby

Bre - posted on 06/01/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Husband and I got married before our 1st child was born. We were engaged before I found out I was pregnant. So, we pushed the marriage forward.
Ever since we had our child, my husband has become unbearable. He moved our daughter and me to his new job right after I had her, there was no grace period for me to recooperate after having her, we had to move right then.
Now, he throws a fit every time he doesn't get his way. He has put us in mounds of debt, and says hurtful things, and how all of our problems are my fault. I love him, but I am not so sure I can stick around much longer. I finally went back to work after 8 months, only because he got us in more debt and refuses to work extra hours, yet he complains about us not having any money.
He gets everything he wants, yet I sacrifice so much so that our daughter and him can have what they want. I wear the same pants to work every day because of this. I thought about leaving, but he has screwed up our finances so much that I wouldn't make it alone with my daughter.
I am just not sure what to do anymore.
We tried counseling, and that was a bust, and we can't afford it anymore.
I am just confused as to where my sweet husband went after we moved and had our daughter. He is now mean and blames everything on me.

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Bre - posted on 06/01/2016

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unfortunately, all the debts he accrued were put in my name as well, he added me onto things, even if I wasn't aware. the state we live in has a law that states that any debt made after marriage is shared debt, otherwise I would have been okay with just splitting it up.
I just would hate doing this to our daughter. I also know that if anything happens between him and I, he will make the biggest, messiest, drawn out ordeal out of it all. He has already shown what he would do the 1st time I tried to leave, and it scares me. Not only did he threaten his safety, but taking our daughter away, and racking up big bills just to ruin the rest of my credit and life. :/

Sarah - posted on 06/01/2016

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No one changes that much in an instant. Maybe you were not seeing his true colors before the wedding? If you are so unhappy, leave. Leave him to deal with his own debts and just get out.

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