Maybe I should mind my business and just let my kids fight.

Felisha - posted on 02/19/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Maybe I should mind my business and just let my kids fight. According to psychoanalyst Erik Erikson by parents butting into the business of their children’s squabbles turns it into a triangle. “When children get into a struggle and underlying guilt makes parents feel that they must protect one or the other. The children’s rivalry is fueled by the goal of getting parents involved. “

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Felisha - posted on 02/19/2013

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Yes! I agree. When they start to disturb my peace that is when I'll address the "issue". The tattling I say it's everyone or no one. Make a choice. They tend to work it out if not everyone goes down. I must say it was a learning process for me. I think the age difference had a lot to do with it. There is 5 years between my boys. I always felt my older one knew more it was his job to show not pick at his brother. As time went on I learned how to manage the mishaps better

Dove - posted on 02/19/2013

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I ignore my kids squabbles unless... 1) they are yelling in the house/around me 2) they are tattling (so them trying to involve me) or 3) it gets physical

If any of the above 3 occur.... they are all equally dealt with even if only 2 of the 3 are involved. I must say... they are learning to work things out together without involving me quite quickly since I started my new strategy. ;)

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