me an my ex with Custody of my daughter me an my ex

Shantell - posted on 12/29/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Well me an my ex broke up an it was an nasty brake up but I have an new boyfriend an he hasn't met my daughter yet an he's been talking about marriage and my ex is married and has an baby right after the break up

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Ev - posted on 12/29/2014

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When you use the words "win this battle"; that makes it sound like you are in a contest. She may not know what is going on right now but in time she is going to be old enough and will want to know why her mom and dad are not together, its only natural for kids to ask that. But in all seriousness, you can move on with your life with any sort of custody agreement. It does not end the world. You will just be sharing the time with her father. What is the harm in that?

Shantell - posted on 12/29/2014

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Well my child don'tknow wwhat's going on yet she's only 1 this started a few months after she was born that's when he did all this an I'mnot in an contest at all i just want to miveon with my llife

Ev - posted on 12/29/2014

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I am not sure of the laws in your area but if you and your are unmarried and moved on it should not but if you two were married it might cause ripples in your custody issues. I would not call it a battle and I would not call it winning. You do not understand what a child goes through when parents fight for custody of them. They hurt the most because the world they once knew is gone and now they have two people tearing that world apart even more because the parents feel that the other one is not fit enough to have the kid more often than he or she. Its not about beating the ex. Its about the placement of the child or children in the best situation possible for their best interests not that of the parents. If you look at this as a contest to win then you loose already. Your child or children are going to look at this if they are old enough to get the idea of what is going on as the fact that mom or dad did not care at all and then it will affect your lives there after. Also, this should be done in a more calm matter and settled out of court too. If the kids can see their parents working towards something together in custody, its better for all involved.

THIS IS NOT A BATTLE IN A WAR....THIS IS ABOUT YOUR CHILD'S BEST INTERESTS AND NOT A CONTEST WITH YOUR EX BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU ARE THE BEST CHOICE FOR THE CHILD.

Shantell - posted on 12/29/2014

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So even though the custody battle is going it should not ruined my chance to win right...

Ev - posted on 12/29/2014

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You said your ex has moved on and gotten married therefore why can you not do the same thing? He has no say over your life.

Shantell - posted on 12/29/2014

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Is it safe for me to move forward with my new boyfriend and an is it safe for me to get married

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