Mrs - posted on 04/17/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )
hi , I am a mother of 8 children, 3 of my own and 5 step kids. me and my husband are married for 2 years now and we love each other very much. the problem is that his children never accepted me as a step mom and they all living with us. me and my husband always have arguments cause the children always have issues and always find ways to come between us. they always trying to make trouble between us. when my husband is at work, they treat me terrible , disrespecting me , shouting at me and slamming doors and tell me just anything they like. when my husband arrives from work then they pretend nothing happened and act all innocent and even come kiss me and say i love you mom. so when i do tell my husband how they treat me then he would not believe me, cause they put up a good performance when he is around and treat me like crap when he is not at home. i feel terrible and dont know what to do.
my own kids moved to their father cause they couldnt handle it any longer to see how this kids are treating me and we have to clean up their mess and they too lazy to do house chores and me and my kids have to clean up after every one, which my kids think its unfair that we have to do all the dirty work and they get away with murder.
Im driving his kids around and it seems that i have to do everything for them and dont have a choice or a say in the matter. the eldest is 23 yrs, then the 21 yr old, 19 and 14 and the boy is 9. the rest is all girls.
they dont want to do anything ,dont even know how to cook and just put demands on me and i must just do what ever they want from me. . they so pretentious when my husband is at home , but when he as work they treat me like crap. when ever i tell him about it, it is as if Im lying to him, cause how can his angels that love their step mom so much be the same children what i describe them to be when he is not around.
ive been to the dr several times now and it all comes down to depression and i cant handle it any longer. i already lost my kids through this trauma that im going through. my husband is a very good man, and he does look well after me, its just that his kids are so well trained i would say to give me a hard time, i dont wana give them the pleasure of destroying my marriage, cause i think that is what they aiming for and that is what they want.
its so heartsore cause i do such a lot for them and no one appreciate what i do in the house.
i always showed them love and i accepeted them as my own and treated them as my own, but they have their own game that they playing and i really love my husband sooo much, and really dont know what to do.
my marriage is at stake now and my husband is tired of me telling him something that he dont see........