Mean to my dogs

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Hi Kristy!!
Welcome to COM. I haven't logged onto this site for months! However ... not much has changed. LOL I can see you have been given a "warm welcome!??!"
Ignore it. It just gets (Yawn) boring! I promise you everyone on here does not behave that way. Do not leave the site because of trash. There truly are some genuine, nice & worthwhile/friendly people on here. Like ME! ha :o)
Hugs & best wishes!!

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No problem! I can't stand to see a person reaching out for help only to have someone attack them. There are ways to word things, they call it constructive criticism. Also, you know what they say about assuming...

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I have to say the first comment to this post was pretty rude. I supervise my kids all day, I am a stay-at-home mother, and I have the same problem with my kids, a 2 and 3 year old harassing my poor cat. They like to stomp on him and pull his tail, I don't think this is out of meanness maybe more like curiosity. I am constantly getting on to them to be nice and I DO show them how they should treat the cat. However, as young ones are, their niceness only last a few minutes and they soon revert back to abusing him. It's just the way kids are, they'll grow out of it just keep explaining it to them.
I do have to say Jodi is right about small dogs being among the worst biters, statistically speaking, but I am sure you use caution. Not that she should have attacked your parenting skill so sarcastically when you were only looking for help.
P.S. I feel bad for my cat too.

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Gena - posted on 07/18/2014

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I just posted the other week what to do with a dog that attacked.My grandfather fell (he is 82 and has a bad hip) His own boxer dog went for him and attacked him so badly that lumps of skin were hanging and he had to get rushed to the hospital to get stiched for over 3hrs! Would i leave any dog with an 18mnth old alone? NEVER. I dont even allow my toddler alone around dogs. You said your child is mean to the dog..what if the dog all of a sudden snaps and starts to bite or attack your child? I love dogs and animals,but safety of a child comes first.

Jodi - posted on 07/17/2014

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I'm not seeing the issue. Only morons leave their toddlers unsupervised with dogs. That's a fact, I'm not implying anything. If she was supervising her child, then no issue, I didn't imply she was a moron at all. Only if she wasn't. In which case, she deserves to be called a moron.

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Hmmm...Well, I guess if implying someone is a "Moron" is NOT being "nasty" ...then Okay?? Hilarious.
Like I told Kristy earlier.... (Yawn)
Nighty Night Ladies! ;O)

Jodi - posted on 07/17/2014

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LOL. She asked for advice. She just didn't LIKE the advice. The REASON so many people have said the same thing is because it is sensible advice coming from mothers who have been there and managed to raise children with dogs. No-one judged her or was nasty or told her she was fucked in the head. We simply suggested stronger supervision, modelling appropriate behaviour and separating the child and the dogs. If she can't handle the truth, that's no-ones problem but her own. There's no need to go telling everyone they are fucked in the head just because she doesn't agree with the advice.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/17/2014

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I'm sorry that you don't like being told that you need to up your supervision level and remove the dogs from the presence of your child, but that's the reality of the situation.

Kristy - posted on 07/17/2014

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Its judgmental people like you that is what's wrong with the world, we need less people like you in the world!

Kristy - posted on 07/17/2014

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With the exception of Kelly, you are all fucked in the head and act as if your perfect. Have had enough of your "concern" again you are all making assumptions. Don't need this shit so I'm done with this site.

Serene - posted on 07/17/2014

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Kristy you do sound more concerned about your dog then your own child. Your child is 18 months old, you need to model the behavior. Pet the dog and tell your child that it is a nice dog, and be nice. If your child can't learn to be nice to the dog by you modeling it then put your dog in a crate, if you are so concerned about your child hurting it. Also just becasue you have a little dog, don't think that it wont HURT your child. Little dogs bite too.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/17/2014

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When I see a post that says "my kid is mean to my dogs, and I can't get her to stop, and I'm afraid she's going to hurt them", my first impression is that if an 18 month old child is continually hurting the dogs, there is some lapse in supervision somewhere.

No one attacked anyone. The OP was told that she needs to keep her kid away from the dogs until the kid is old enough to understand proper treatment of them.

I also pointed out that with consistent reminders and redirection, my kids never treated our dogs in that manner, but then again, were also never left in a situation where they would be able to. Again, no attack.

Jodi - posted on 07/16/2014

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Oh, FFS, I did not attack her. When someone has a child being mean to their dogs, you assume they are not being supervised because otherwise why are you sitting there allowing it to happen? Hmmmm?

Kristy - posted on 07/16/2014

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Thanks Kelly I truly appreciate what you said! And AGAIN to the people who continue to assume I leave my children alone with my dogs, where in any of my posts do you read that I do or ever have left my kids unattended with my dogs!?! Cuz I don't! Again thanks Kelly!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/16/2014

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Well, why are you allowing your 18 month old unsupervised around the dogs? The dogs should either be crated in her presence until she learns appropriate behaviour, or she should not be allowed around them at all.

Yes, she's only 18 months, but small children and dogs don't necessarily mix well if you're not completely attentive to the situation.

We have always had dogs. When my kids were babies/toddlers, they were not allowed to be in the dogs' pen alone, and when the dogs came in the house, they got their 'gentle' command, which had been instilled well before our kids came along. That still didn't mean I left my 18 month old around my Shepherd or Chow mix...just not advised!

So, until she's older, when she starts towards the dogs, redirect her, and remove the dogs.

Jodi - posted on 07/16/2014

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Well, if you are supervising, then it's not a problem, is it? You teach her to be gentle and be with her all the time. Model the appropriate way for her to interact with the dogs. That's how children learn.

Kristy - posted on 07/16/2014

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My God lady I never said I leave them unsupervised, again with you assuming! Ok well you go ahead and live in Never Never land while I and the rest of the world continue to live in reality! And I will be happy never having had to of Actually met you! Blessings in disguise! Thank the good Lord!

Jodi - posted on 07/15/2014

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Of course I have kids, what a stupid question. I would not let an 18 month old around a dog without supervision. Ever. It is not rocket science. I never did. So no, I am not in a glasshouse throwing stones. I already crossed the toddler bridge, and only a moron would think that leaving a toddler unsupervised with dogs (no matter how tiny) is perfectly normal and okay.

Nowhere did I say you don't care about your children. Neither did I assume it. I also NEVER said it wasn't okay to care for both. I said you seemed more concerned about what the child did to the dogs than what the dogs could do to your child. Small dogs are some of the worst offenders. Don't assume that because they are tiny they can't seriously harm your child.

With a child this age, the best and safest course of action is ALWAYS prevention, so keep the dogs and the child apart if you can't supervise them properly.

And for the record, I didn't judge the sort of parent you were, although I am beginning to get the picture. As I said, if you don't like my advice, you are free to ignore it.

Kristy - posted on 07/15/2014

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Do you even have kids? And again don't put words in my mouth and assume to know me or what kind of parent I am! My dogs are tiny and my daughter is learning EVERYTHING! Why would you even go so far as to assume I don't care about my children! Why is it so wrong to care for both? What a sad world you must live in!

Jodi - posted on 07/15/2014

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No, but I wouldn't allow my 18 month old around the dogs unsupervised, so I wouldn't need eyes in the back of my head. It isn't difficult. You said you were concerned the dogs would be hurt. You should be concerned about the child being hurt. Far more dogs have mauled children than children mauled dogs. If you can't supervise your child around the dogs, then you need to make sure the dogs are not in the house or in the room. If you don't like my suggestion, feel free to ignore it. It wasn't rude, it was honest.

Kristy - posted on 07/15/2014

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Wow! There's no need to be rude, pretty sure you don't have eyes in the back of your head and unless you have the most well behaved 18month old in the world you should know that bad things can happen in the blink of an eye, yes I'm concerned about my daughter and my dogs, hence the "post" for advice NOT to be judged by a complete stranger, cuz we ALL live in glass houses. Seriously try being a little nicer!

Jodi - posted on 07/15/2014

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You're not concerned about your daughter getting seriously hurt?

Honestly, they call it supervision. Your child should not be unsupervised around the dogs. It really is that simple.

Kristy - posted on 07/15/2014

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My 18month old daughter is super mean to our dogs which both weight less than 5lbs and I can't get her to stop! Please any advice before my dogs end up seriously hurt. .

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