Men think they have no responsibility to take care of their wife and child. Why?
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Jodi - posted on 02/12/2014
That's not true at all! Maybe you need to look at the men you choose? I don't mean that in a snarky way at all for what it is worth. I am married to a very kind, loving, and responsible man. He takes his responsibility to our family just as seriously as I do! We have four boys ages 16,15,12 & 8 years old.
We are teaching our own boys how to be responsible, kind, and loving men. So when they are adults this world will have four more good men! *your welcome! ;)
PS.. if I was with a man who didn't want to take responsibility for his own child then it would be time for me to take a serious look at my own choices and probably move on without him. As for taking care of their wife, well, that in my opinion is a non issue. If they are kind and loving then that is the end of where I want any man trying to take care of me. I am a grown adult woman capable of taking care of myself and my own needs. I do not like the idea of putting the responsibility of being taken care of on another human adult when we are far more than capable of taking care of ourselves. A child, sure.. not another adult.
â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 02/10/2014
I take offense to this statement. You can say "MY man doesn't think he's got responsibilities", but you cannot say "ALL men", because that simply is not true. For example, MY man DOES take care of his wife and boys, very well, tyvm.
And, if YOUR man doesn't think that his responsibilities are important, then the two of you had better sit down and have a conversation about that.
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J - posted on 11/19/2015
' he's a loser who never really wanted responsibility in the first place, so when the game got old, he stopped playing. Or, he felt he was forced into something that he really wasn't ready for. Or, he felt that he didn't really have to take responsibility (for whatever reason, who knows)
And, if you want him to pony up, you need to get an attorney, and get him in a courtroom.'
On your quote, why is he a loser as it is hard to bring a family on one income and as I know men are emotional burdened with this task.Men as I have know take their responsibility for their family or the court get them to. But as I have been told the romance dies so the true person shows their image and it is not always nice to be with them. On the last line of the quote the women that get an attorney as you said in the being are psychotic or angry that he hasn't taken more responsibility. From what I know men usually take responsibility for their child but for his wife that is a lot harder. As all of my friends that got divorced I know that some women where angry at the lack of attention and affection as before as their husbands where working long hours so have 'felt' neglect, so men are responsible, maybe this wife should pick up the slack and help out.
Michelle - posted on 02/10/2014
I'm with the other ladies on this one. I have a wonderful man that does look after us all and 2 aren't even his.
Not all men are like yours so maybe you need to either leave him and find someone who treats you like you want or get into marriage counselling and talk about what you want.
Andrea - posted on 02/10/2014
I believe that some "guys" just don't want to grow up and be responsible for anyone or anything... This goes with a say, "Any man can make a baby but it take a real man to be a daddy." just like " Any woman can have a baby but it take a real woman to be a mommy"
I am very lucky to have a great MAN who does take care of me and our 3 children..
However with that being said I know many women who are fighting with their hubby, boyfriend, baby daddy ect... I also know many men who are fighting with their wives, girlfriends, baby mamas ect...
These people are just people who have never been made to grow up, nor do they have any interest in growing up.. One day they will open their eye and if their family has stayed they will see what and how much they missed out on, on the other hand they may wake up and be all alone with a child or children, ex wife or girlfriend who wants nothing to do with them and will not even speak to them...
I am speaking for my own experience as a young 27 year old woman who has not seen or spoken to her Bio father in 13 years... When I had my first child my husband reached out and asked if he wanted to meet his first grandson he said NO.. His loss not mine.. I have a 6 year old boy, a almost 5 year old girl, and a 12 month old, who have never met him and never will.. HIS LOSS!!!!
There is not a reason why some people do this, maybe they freak out and decided after the fact this life isn't for them... It is life, they need to grow up and get a grip on it...
â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 02/10/2014
Well, Lea, I can't tell you WHY. Why do women feel it is best for them to be psychotic bitches and claim full possession of children upon a divorce?
So, lets look at YOUR specific case. In YOUR case, it's probably because he's a loser who never really wanted responsibility in the first place, so when the game got old, he stopped playing. Or, he felt he was forced into something that he really wasn't ready for. Or, he felt that he didn't really have to take responsibility (for whatever reason, who knows)
And, if you want him to pony up, you need to get an attorney, and get him in a courtroom.
But, as I said, it isn't ALL men, nor is it really a majority of men. You can type any damn thing you want on the internet, but you also have to be prepared for what you get in response, and to be quite honest, the majority of MEN do take their responsibilities to their families very seriously.
Lea - posted on 02/10/2014
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