Mid-Age LONEY and BORED to death. Has ZERO interest in Husband!

Terri - posted on 03/29/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Kids are at school all day and I live in a super small town that offers nothing more than a grocery store and one red light. I am bored to tears and it's not getting any better. I am currently being treated for depression. The first reaction would be to think the med isn't working but this 'feeling' isn't related to the depression. I have a husband who for the most part is selfish and acts like a child. He controls and I MEAN CONTROLS all of the money so I have to ASK him for every dime I need. Over the past 5 yrs or so I have grown so tired of this life. So tired of ME. I don't dress up or bother with makeup hardly anymore. I use to be complete opposite. Always dressed well, hair and makeup.....I just want to feel connected to someone or something again!!!!!!!


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Michelle - posted on 03/29/2014




Your husband sounds abusive, yes, controlling someone else's life to that degree is abuse. You are a grown woman and have every right to make your own choices.
My ex husband made sure I didn't have any money of my own to make it harder for me to leave. Luckily I had a family member that was able to help me out.
You don't have to put up with someone so controlling but I know it's hard to get out as well. While the kids are at school see if any of the other parents get together regularly and see if yo can join them. You can't make friends by staying at home all day, you have to get out and meet them.

Jodi - posted on 03/29/2014




Have you considered getting some work while the kids are at school? It will give you access to other relationships, the ability to make friends, as well as some money of your own. In all honesty, your husband shouldn't be forcing you to have to ask for money, and if you feel you are in a controlling relationship, you could choose to leave that situation. But you do sound a little depressed and maybe finding something for yourself outside the home would be a good idea.

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