MIL is killing my marriage.

Kayla - posted on 10/15/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have been with my husband for almost 10 years now and married for 5. We have 2 boys under 4 and I'm currently pregnant with baby #3. My husband was raised by his father and step mom. Recently my MIL who lived 3 hours away has decided to move and right down the road from us. She was not involved in our lives at all except the occasional visit. She puts my husband up on this pedastool like he is so perfect. She knows nothing about us or our Marriage together. The way she loves him is kind of creepy and uncomfortable for me at times. And also confusing since she wasn't there for him and did not raise him. She is super sentimental about everything. And she honestly just makes my skin crawl. I know it's not normal but I can't stand her touching my babies it makes me ill. I have tried to explain my feelings to my husband but he calls me crazy. I'm so unhappy that I feel like leaving him rather than deal with his mother is my only option. I don't feel like I should have to put up with her decision of moving down here and forcing her way into our lives. She gives him her work schedule every week like he is to make time for her weekly. He is constantly working I go days myself without seeing him and now here she is pushing her way in. I have recently started to see a therapist because I have been depressed since she decided to move here. My husband knows how I feel and sees that our relationship is falling apart yet won't confront her because of his need to protect her. He is all she has left because she seems to push everyone out of her life and now here she is lunging on to him. I feel so alone and don't want to destroy everything we built together but fighting and me being depressed is not good for our children. Any advice and opinions are appreciated!


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/15/2015




She's his mother, for crying out loud. He may have been raised by his father, but the woman is still his mother.

How would you feel? Your only son's wife thinks you're 'creepy' because you want to be involved in his life? Go to counseling.

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2015




Despite the fact she was not really involved previously, she is still his mother. He feels a connection to her and wants her to be a part of his life. It isn't unreasonable that he makes times for her once a week or so. Perhaps, in addition to your individual counselling, you and your husband would benefit from some couples/family counselling to help you mediate the issue and find a compromise that you are both happy with.

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