Militant Future Mom

Angela - posted on 07/25/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My name is Angela and I am 29 years-old. In a couple weeks I will give birth to a son. I'm very excited, however I'm also nervous since this will be my first child and I tend to be frigid. From the age of 18 to 23 I was enlisted in the army as active duty and served two tours in Iraq. Because I enlisted as an active duty service member I was immediately taught to live a certain lifestyle which was very strict & very "by the book". From the age of 23-27 I have lived on my own never once having a roommate knowing that they could never live up to my standards of cleanliness, organization, & so forth. So from 18-28 my home life has been very militant. At 27 I moved in with my boyfriend & (with a year of much effort & patience on his part) learned to relax some. We still live together & I still drive him crazy about certain things like clutter & not immediately putting things away. Once this baby comes all my military ways will be flushed. How can I keep an orderly house without losing my sanity by worrying about clutter & if the place is tidy?

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I tried to keep my house clean all the time and keep up with everything and it near drove me crazy. I know it's hard and will take some time to adjust, but relax your expectations about cleanliness, try to maybe go around the house once in the morning and one in the evening and spend 15 minutes picking up as well as keeping up with dishes and laundry. everything else can wait.

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Emily - posted on 07/30/2013

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Welcome to the tenches! I'm always telling my kids we can't have nice things cuz they always mess them up. You'll get use to it. Otherwise you may want to consider a housekeeper.

Angela - posted on 07/30/2013

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Thank you, Jessica for your insight :) I'm hoping that over time I will learn to relax and just roll with the punches.

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2013

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Just remember that this baby is your child, not a soldier! Relax and don't stress about mess. Within a year I can almost guarantee you will be peed on, puked on, spit up on, sneezed on, had food spit at, and many other messy things. By the time the child falls asleep, you will be 'too tired to clean up tonight, I'll get to it tomorrow'. Just focus on nurturing your baby and having fun. When he or she is older, you can introduce things like putting away toys. Chill out, Ma'am! ;-)

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