military issue

Elizabeth - posted on 07/22/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I live in Oklahoma. this is very much a mommy state. I also have sole custody of our child she is 7. I know I have to turn in a relocation notification and the father has 30 days to respond. if he decides to fight it what would be the mostly likely outcome? my husband is going to the coast guard.

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Jodi - posted on 07/23/2016

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Dove has a good point - is he likely to fight it? Have you discussed it with him prior to putting in the notification?

Dove - posted on 07/23/2016

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No one line can predict what will happen. Can you predict the likelihood that he will fight it? A judge may very well rule that it is fine... or the judge may rule that the child can not be relocated.

Ev - posted on 07/23/2016

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You are lucky in that law then. Not every state has that and a judge has to consider things first and the other parent has to agree. I think in my state under normal circumstances the non-custodial parent would have to agree to it before it would be allowed.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/23/2016

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Our state law is to put in a relocation notification with a detailed revised visitation schedule. He has 30 days to respond if he doesn't respond then the judge automatically signs off on it.

Ev - posted on 07/23/2016

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We can not tell you what a judge will say but Jodi is right in her comments. You also have to consider that the judge is going to also determine if the move is in the best interest of the child too and how this will affect dad's time with the child and ability to parent and build a relationship with her. He can say no to it and the judge may also say no. In a lot of states you can not move unless you get permission of the courts and the other parent. In Arkansas, I am not sure what the normal course of action is where a move is concerned but my friend got sole legal/physical custody of her three kids with the stipulation that her ex get one weekend a month and he had to turn in times, dates, etc if he took them out of state on vacation not only to her but the courts. He also could not take them out of state with out permission except for the fact he lived across the state line which was the only accepted reason. She also had it set up she could move where ever she wanted without having to gain permission in court. But her case was most likely one in a million to get that set up. You have to check your state laws regardless of the state being mommy friendly with custody.

Jodi - posted on 07/23/2016

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This is probably a question you'd have to ask a lawyer. But it is likely to very much depend on what arrangements you may have made regarding visitation. Does he currently have visitation? That will ultimately determine the outcome - fair and reasonable visitation so that he can still maintain a good relationship with the child.

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