Military Style Discipline

Erica - posted on 08/14/2011 ( 25 moms have responded )

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This is just a question (no bashing military style discipline)
Do you use military style discipline at your young children growing up?? Push ups sit ups? leg lifts, mountain climbers etc....

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Krista - posted on 08/15/2011

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And yes, I know that the OP said to not bash military style discipline, but I think what most people here are upset about is the AGE at which it's used and the REASONS for which it's used.

Tara - posted on 08/15/2011

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Is this a joke post?
Seriously I thought it was until I read one of the replies and it wasn't a joke reply.
Crying isn't something that a child needs to be punished for,
My god we are the only species that cries when we are distressed. Our tears release stress hormones, the chemical reactions in our brains promotes crying as a way to dilute the rush of cortisol in our brains, children need to cry when they are emotionally upset. It's GOOD for their brains to be allowed to leak tears out of their eyes.
What is not good for their brains is to be punished for their emotions.
What is not good for their self esteem is to be told their emotions are wrong or irrational or something they should feel guilty about,
What is also not okay is ignoring the cause of the emotional upset.

Our goal as parents should be to help our children learn to be empathetic, compassionate, well rounded and happy people.
This style of "discipline" does absolutely nothing to further that goal and actually does a lot to ensure it isn't met.

Mrs. - posted on 08/14/2011

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Not to mention, you're giving exercise a negative association and that really sucks.



Think about it, if my mother made me do sit ups if I cried as a child, what's the last thing I'm going to want to do to feel good?



Exercise is such a wonderful, life enhancing tool. Why would you want your kid to be set up like that?

Jodi - posted on 08/15/2011

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I think I just get bothered by the fact that if you are already doing this to them at 5, what are you going to do when they are 14? It doesn't get any easier.... :\

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J M - posted on 02/25/2013

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Some one said here: Quote: Sometimes the whole point of discipline is have the "punishment" be so annoying that the kid doesn't want to do that behavior again.
What rubbish.

So this make no sense if you give sport as a annoying thing to do then you discourage young children to do the things that are suppose to be good and fun.

Simply take away treats etc.

Kate CP - posted on 08/15/2011

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Uhh...no. I use verbalization and natural consequences. I see no reason to hurt my kids because they made a mistake.

Krista - posted on 08/15/2011

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Exactly. Like I said, I could perhaps see it if you had two teenage siblings who were squabbling, and you did it just to tire them out. But for a 5-year old? For crying? That's just pitiful -- poor little kid.

Jodi - posted on 08/15/2011

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Krista's right, it was probably the post indicating this style of discipline for younger children that was the issue. Personally, I wouldn't use it even for older children in a general environment, because I am a big believer in the punishment actually making sense as a consequence, but in 5 year old? Yeah, that bothers me.

Kellie - posted on 08/15/2011

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LOL might join you. Fucking Locum's, I want/need to sleep and the damn doctor hasn't come. I could cry....

Jodi - posted on 08/15/2011

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I broke down crying myself today, because of stress (long story). But I am old enough to verbalise that I am feeling stressed, but heck, crying made me feel so much better. Maybe I should drop and give 20 or something?

Stifler's - posted on 08/15/2011

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I've never even heard of military style discipline unless used in the military. NOW DROP AND GIVE ME 20.

Kellie - posted on 08/14/2011

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The things people do in the name of discipline. The mind boggles.

It'll be a cold day in hell before I ever use this "discipline" method.

Jodi - posted on 08/14/2011

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I saw someone on Wife Swap one day who used Military style discipline with her kids. It made me sick then, and it makes me sick now.

Jodi - posted on 08/14/2011

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"Sit ups are usually done when they are crying for no reason. And they have to be done crying before they finish their sit ups. Only twice has any of them had to "start over" because they weren't done crying. They are now smart enough to go slow so they can be done crying by the time they are done. "



I just want to ask what you think your goal is here? Because it seems to me that you are just teaching your kids to do slower sit ups. Seriously, you can't think of other ways to deal with your children crying?

Krista - posted on 08/14/2011

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Yeah. I could maybe see using this for teenagers, for stupid things like fighting with each other.

But a 5-year old? For "crying for no reason"? Just because the reason doesn't make sense to YOU, it doesn't mean it's not a good reason. Poor little mite.

Katherine - posted on 08/14/2011

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To be honest with you I've never even heard of this. WHY???
Making a 5 year old do it? Sounds pretty traumatic to me.

Christina - posted on 08/14/2011

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We have our kids do sit ups, but it is one sit up per year of age. Our 10yr old does ten, the 8yr old does 8, ect. We also don't make them do them perfectly. My 5yr old is so stinking adorable when he is doing his sit ups. They are soooo bad, but it is cute. And effective. Sit ups are usually done when they are crying for no reason. And they have to be done crying before they finish their sit ups. Only twice has any of them had to "start over" because they weren't done crying. They are now smart enough to go slow so they can be done crying by the time they are done.



My mom finally gave up with discipline. My brother and I would fight so bad no matter what she did to us in the way of discipline. So she finally started making us do push ups. We started at 20, and every time we would fight again (during the day) she would add ten more. It worked wonderfully for us. And I got really strong! It sucked at first, but I can tell you that it helped put me into shape as a teenager.

Sometimes the whole point of discipline is have the "punishment" be so annoying that the kid doesn't want to do that behavior again.

Kyleigh - posted on 08/14/2011

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Im glad my parents didn't do this to me! Time outs work best and taking away video games but i also give them a change to earn it back!

Jodi - posted on 08/14/2011

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No......where is the natural or logical consequence?



And really, think about it, is it a good idea to make any sort of exercise a punishment? Once it becomes a punishment, it then becomes logical for the child to learn to avoid it because it is associated with negative consequences, right?



Sometimes I don't think people actually stop and give consideration to the potential negative results of certain discipline techniques, as long as it works in the short term. And quite honestly, we should.

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