Misbehaving in kindergarten

Natalie - posted on 04/22/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son keeps misbehaving at school and I just do not know what to do anymore. He keeps hitting kids, kissing kids, throwing dirt/mud/rocks, even eating the dirt/mud/rocks. We see a psychologist due to ADHD suspicions and decided to only see each other once or twice a year because he had been doing good for a month. Literally a week or two after the appointment he started acting out again and has been doing so for about 2 or 3 weeks already! He won't stop hitting kids. I feel like I am doing everything wrong. I have tried everything from rewards for good behavior, time-outs, to chores around the house, to running laps in the yard, and regrettably even a spanking. I obviously have a long discussion with him before these punishments. Nothing is working and I feel like I am going crazy. He is always on the verge of suspension. The most recent call from the school was about switching teachers and I am hoping that will work. He just will not listen. When I tell him not to do something he looks very apologetic and says he will not do it again but will turn around and do it in school the very next day! Please help. My son is 5 years and in kindergarten. We are thinking about having baby number 2 in 3 months but this is stressing me out so much.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/22/2016

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Well, first, what is the teacher doing to address the behaviour immediately when it occurs?

once your kiddo is in school, you need to become a team with the educators. You all need to be involved in discipline and decisions. Start with a team meeting with his teacher, you (parents), and school nurse or counselor. MAKE A PLAN. This will help you all address the issues consistently.

Good luck with everything!

Dove - posted on 04/22/2016

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What is the school doing to address these behaviors? Does his school have a guidance counselor that he sees? Sounds like he may need to be back in some regular counseling in addition to Shawnn's suggestion. They should be working w/ him on appropriate boundaries.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/24/2016

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Simply moving him to a new teacher is NOT addressing problem behaviour, it is sweeping it under a rug. I have never, EVER had a school situation where the teachers did not want parental involvement. In this day and age, parental involvement is usually the way of things, not the exception.

You may have work, most of us do, but you are a parent first. If you cannot take the necessary time to get things handled with your kids, then you are doing them (and everyone involved with them) a disservice. If you are in school, you know how important it is to have every student in a cooperative mode. When one is disruptive, he is not only screwing with his own progress, but also with everyone else's. This is not OK.

Work with your son's current educational staff to fix this. In the long run, if it is not effective, you can request a change, but most instructional institutions want to see a constructive attempt to rectify the problems before applying the avoidance method

Natalie - posted on 04/22/2016

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Yes, I do admit that I have not been involved as much as I would like due to work and school. I also feel like the school does not like much involvement from the parents. I will definitely schedule and appointment with the principle/teacher and make a list of all concerns that I would be addressed that way nothing is forgotten. I just got a call from the principle stating that he was hitting kids again today. I do not want to punish him anymore...I feel like maybe starting fresh will help him more so I will sit down with him and ask him why he is being bad at school and try to see if he is going through something that I do not know about. Then let him know that I want to start with a clean slate and hope that he does better in school next week, which hopefully with the new teacher he will.

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