Miscarriage.

Danielle - posted on 07/24/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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The other day was indeed a very stressful one.




I had gone off birth control end of May to let my body start regulating itself. After my period was late I had decided to take a pregnancy test, which was negative. The other day I was overwhelmed by crippling cramps, and stabbing pains in my lower left abdomen. I was obviously aware that this was not the norm with my menstruation. I had started to spot earlier on that week without thinking it was anything serious, (just my body adjusting without b.c assistance). Concerned, I took a pregnancy test which then came out positive.




After going to the hospital and some blood work later they told me that it is possible that it is a miscarriage. They told me to come back in 48 hours to see if my hormone levels have gone down that would indicate the confirmation of miscarriage.




My question is.. has anyone have this happen, and have their pregnancy full term? If not, in your experience was it harder to conceive after? Also, how long were you comfortable waiting before trying again?



I also had an emergency c-section with my first baby. Will this affect my chances of having a VBAC?

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Jennifer - posted on 01/22/2015

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I had my first miscarriage a few months ago . I was just 8 weeks and I was devastated. I would like to try again soon but I'm worried my body won't be ready and it will happen again. When is it safe to try and conceive again?

Annamaria - posted on 07/24/2009

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I had a misscarriage 3 months before I got pregnate with my first child I think I was 8 week why it happend no idea,I was hurt at the time cause I was young if it happend today its life, My first son I had Emergencey c-section my song was breech his butt was done head up legs like strattle, and i broke my water.For my 2nd they wanted me to do try labor but i didnt think it was a good idea my son was 8 13 oz and 21 inches and im like 5'2, i was bleedin and they said my 2nd child reopened my stitches, and I am pregnate again and this was a big surprise and I am more scared now then my 1st time....

JL - posted on 07/24/2009

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With my second pregnancy I bled for the first month and I was told I might be miscarrying during the first couple of doctor appointments. During that first month I took 6 pregnancies tests, had two blood tests, and had 2 ultrasounds. All confirmed I was pregnant and by the second month I stopped bleeding and went on with the pregnancy. My OBGYN told me that sometimes women bleed for unexplained reasons and they have healthy babies. He also told me that practically every women has at least one miscarriage in thier live whether they realize it or not because they will not know they are pregnant and miscarry during a normal cycle so they assume it is their period.



Just continue to go to your doctor. As far as the VBAC goes that depends upon the reasons for your last C-section and how your second pregancy goes. I had to have a C-sections with both my pregnancies.



I hope all works out well with you.

Kirsty - posted on 07/24/2009

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I've had 4 miscarriages and 5 healthy children. I bled heavily with my 3rd child and he was born at nearly full term, a healthy 6lbs 12ozs, then I bled again with my last child for a couple of weeks and she was 2 weeks late and 7lbs 1oz. My first two miscarriages were quite late in pregnancy (20 + 16 weeks) and were due to an injury and illness. My third happened at 9 weeks and I was told it was "just one of those things". My last miscarriage was much like yours, we'd been trying for a while then on the day I got a positive pregnancy test, I collapsed and was told in hospital I'd lost the baby. I was just 5 weeks gone.

A miscarriage is one of the worst things a woman can go through. The bond you form with the baby as it grows is the most amazing thing, and when you lose that you need to greive and give your body time to heal. There's no set time for when you should start trying again, only you can tell when you're ready, both physically and mentally. Take comfort in your family and friends, or a counseller if that helps. Talk through it with your partner, he's lost a baby and is grieving too, lean on each other for support as it will help you both to heal. Then, when you're both ready, start trying again. It may happen right away, it may take a while, but it will happen when your body is ready for it so don't worry. Relax and don't think about trying too much.

Wishing you well with everything.

Kim - posted on 07/24/2009

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I once read that many women are pregnant and never know it because they have a miscarriage when they would normally have a period. It's just that your body wasn't ready for that particular pregnancy or something wasn't exactly right. Like maybe the embryo didn't attatch properly or the cells didn't divide like they were supposed to. If it was a miscarriage it may be because your body was coming off of the birth control. I wouldn't think there would be any need to wait to try to get pregnant again. I've had a miscarriage myself and understand that no matter how far along the pregnancy was it's still a terrible thing to go through. My heart goes out to you. I wish you much luck in your future attempts to get pregnant. :)

Isobel - posted on 07/24/2009

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I had a miscarriage the first time I got pregnant. I know how difficult this is for you and I hope you feel better soon. Just to let you know though, I have had two children since with no problems conceiving or carrying either of them. I think miscarrying your first baby is fairly common , though I know that knowing that doesn't make it any easier.

I wish you the best

Katherine - posted on 07/24/2009

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My mom had several miscarriages before me. She never had trouble getting pregnant her problem was staying pregnant. She was put on bed rest for the majority of her pregnancy with me but I came out healthy. I have friends who are trying to get pregnant but she's had @ least one miscarriage and it was related to her birthcontrol. Those are 2 unencouraging stories but I have many other friends that had a miscarriage or near one and still had healthy babies. No one had trouble concieving afterwards but they were considered High Risk but on the high side that just means more ultrasounds =)

Hope this was some help even though my knowledge isn't first hand =/

Savannah - posted on 07/24/2009

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I have also had miscarriages in the past and now am working on #3. So don't worry that it will make it harder for you to have a baby. Miscarraiges are ridiculously common, especially with the first pregnancy.

Savannah - posted on 07/24/2009

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I started out with this pregnancy bleeding really bad. Went to the doctor and everything and he pretty much told me that I was going to miscarry. I didn't! 6 months preggo now and doing just fine.

I did bleed lightly for a month afterward but the baby is fine and so am I.

Good luck and I hope things work out for you! ((hugs))

Katherine - posted on 07/24/2009

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My mom had several miscarriages before me. She never had trouble getting pregnant her problem was staying pregnant. She was put on bed rest for the majority of her pregnancy with me but I came out healthy. I have friends who are trying to get pregnant but she's had @ least one miscarriage and it was related to her birthcontrol. Those are 2 unencouraging stories but I have many other friends that had a miscarriage or near one and still had healthy babies. No one had trouble concieving afterwards but they were considered High Risk but on the high side that just means more ultrasounds =)

Hope this was some help even though my knowledge isn't first hand =/

Amy - posted on 07/24/2009

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My cousin had severe bleeding in her last pregnancy, she was constantly freaking out, her daughter was born full term and healthy last Aug. The key is to keep up with the doc appointments, and if you have any concerns, don't be afraid to go to the ER. Good luck sweetie, I'm praying for you

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