Allison - posted on 01/23/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




A thousand apologies but I'm pretty upset and don't want to go through all my messages to tell all my supporters what's going on so I'm posting something for everyone.

I submitted a post maybe two weeks ago saying I was 17, pregnant, and scared. Well it still stands true but I have bad news... I'm having a miscarriage. I'll be going to Planned Parenthood tomorrow to abort my pregnancy. I would've loved more than anything to have a baby, a week after I found out I got a job! I was taking great care of myself and things were okay.

But for almost four days in a row now I've been "spotting", cramping, and having sharp abdominal pains. My mother, who was an OBGYN for 15 years told me that in two weeks, if I chose to keep the baby, I'd be in the hospital and my blessing would be gone. :/

I had my first ultra sound today, the baby is 7 weeks old according to that but by the dates of my last period it should be 9.5 weeks so the baby isn't developing right. I've cried for nearly an hour and am crying as I'm typing this for everyone to read. I wish it didn't have to be this way but now I don't have a choice of keeping my little blessing.

For every mother who's reading this please do something for me...

Go hug your kid. Give them a huge kiss on the forehead and tell them how much they mean to you, because I'd give anything to keep my blessing but I can't and now I won't know the feeling of being a mother and sharing such a love.


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Kate CP - posted on 01/24/2012




Oh, sweet pea...you are a mom! Just because you never got a chance to meet your baby doesn't mean you're not a mom. But some day you WILL get a chance to meet your baby.

You didn't do anything wrong or do anything to cause this to happen. Sometimes these things just happen. But you loved your baby and he or she knew that. They never experience pain or hunger or cold or loneliness or sadness. That baby only knew your embrace while it lived. So, while you may not have held your baby in your arms, you'll always hold her in your heart.

*hugs* I wish you the best of luck and a world of healing and love.

Krista - posted on 01/24/2012




Sweetie, I am SO sorry to hear of your loss. I wish I could give you a great big hug right now. Make sure you take time for yourself to heal, both physically and emotionally.

And the way I look at it is that you DO know the feeling of being a mother. You loved your little baby with all your heart, and did your best to protect him or her. And it didn't work out, and that's not your fault at all -- it just wasn't meant to be. But you WILL know that feeling again...of that, I have no doubt. I know you'll have your babies someday, and I know you're going to be a fantastic mom.


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I'm so sorry for what you are going through, make sure you give yourself time to grieve for your loss. My heart goes out to you.

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