Miscarriage

User - posted on 09/18/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hello amazing mothers
I found out my 9 week old baby had no heartbeat yesterday. Am due for the d&c in two days. I am devastated . Absolutely heartbroken. I feel I failed my baby. I did fail my baby. I already am so blessed with two little boys but is it normal to feel this broken?

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User - posted on 09/19/2013

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Thanks so much for your reply Karen. I just can't seem to get myself together and stop crying. Crying for what I was so excited about, what could have been, for disappointing my six year old ( I had told him the week before). It was already a baby to me. And I do feel like I failed it. My fault. My husband has been trying to be supportive and my sister interstate has been regularly sending messages. I do feel very alone and absolutely heartbroken. Like I'll never recover - I'm a fairly emotional person at the best of times. I want the d&c to be over with yet I want it so much to not be true. I know I have to keep moving forward or trying to, and I will I guess, I have no choice, but the overwhelming grief I feel is unbearable. Thank you so much again for sharing your story and what a brave lady you are. X

Karen - posted on 09/18/2013

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It is completely normal to feel sad. But please don't blame yourself! You did nothing wrong.. miscarriages usually happen due to chromosome abnormalities. I had a misscarriage 5 months ago an was completely torn apart, but my mother and family helped me get thru it and would constantly remind me that my daughters needed me as well. And I needed to have faith and be strong for them. I truly hope you feel better.. ♡

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