Miscarriage Blues

Veronica - posted on 04/21/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I found out i was pregnant March 2,2014. The most happiest day ofmy life! After 28 years I finally thought this was it! I had been thinking that I couldn't have children but yep I was pregnant! Then came April 15,2014 I was bleeding like crazy but what was wierd was that whole weekend I could feelit in my soul something was wrong. A trip to the emergency room confirmed my most dreaded fear, A MISCARRIAGE! this baby was something me and my boyfriend both wanted. I'm so devastated and the pain wont seem to go away. We've agreed to try it again. I just wonder will I ever get over this sense of failure. No matter how early it is in your pregnancy, that connection with your child is there. Rest In Peace My Beautiful Angel. U know thats what I am right now a Mother of An Angel.

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Shay - posted on 04/22/2014

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no problem! honestly i felt really alone in this until i read your post so it is comforting to know that other women felt the same as i did! if you ever want to chat feel free to contact me :)

Shay - posted on 04/21/2014

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I also recently had a miscarriage. My fiancé and I tried again immediately after getting the OK from my doctor. The day after I went to the doctor for my first ultrasound, I lost that baby too. Even though I already have one healthy 2 year old daughter, it doesn't change the fact that I am heartbroken to have lost my babies. The hardest thing for me was it just seemed like no one understood. Even women I knew (my mom) who had a miscarriage offered the same advice...it was gods will, or it just wasn't meant to be right now. I don't know about you but I hated those responses more than anything. I read your story and I just want to say to you what I wish someone would have said to me. I am truly so sorry for your loss. It is not right that you lost your baby and it is not ok! The advice I can give you that has helped me is to live everyday of your life in memory of your beautiful baby. I feel like I owe it to my angels to be the best PERSON I can be everyday since I did not get the opportunity to be the best mother I could be to them. I hope this helps you and I hope you find peace! ♥

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Veronica - posted on 04/21/2014

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that is all i wanted to hear. Thank you Shay for understanding. those words help me to realize thats all i can do is move on and be THE BEST MOTHER OF AN ANGEL i can be. its helpful to hear all the facts, they help u to understand the way ur body functions.Hearing someone say its not okay and i have a right to grieve means the world.Shay i wish u and your fiance great blessings in hopes of a healthy beautiful baby, which will happen like i know it will happen for me. God Bless!

Jodi - posted on 04/21/2014

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You shouldn't see it as a failure. Around 20-25% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, and it has nothing to do with you. It is the body's way of dealing with any issues with the growing fetus. Your pregnancy was not viable long before you even found out you were pregnant. I'm sorry for your loss, I know how hard it can be. I had two miscarriages before having my second child and it was a difficult time. It is totally normal for you to go through a grieving process for the baby you lost. {hugs}

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