Missing the first month of newborns life

Nicole - posted on 11/24/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband and I just had our 5th child 1 month ago today. After the week Noah was born my husband's father had a stroke and quickly went down hill. To be there for support for my husband and MIL the kids and I have been going back and forth to West Virginia every weekend and even sometimes half way through the week depending on the kids school schedule. Last Monday (almost 1 week ago) my husband's father passed away and we stayed for the funeral this week. Since we have been going back and forth so much I feel like we have spent Noah's 1st month in the car. I am just starting to feel awful that I haven't been able to capture and enjoy every second with our newborn and his life has been over shadowed. Is that terrible of me?


LalaBoom - posted on 11/25/2013




That is not terrible at all.

As a matter of fact, I actually think you need a break.

BUT, I would be sensitive to your husband and not say anything that would make it seem like your child is more important than the death of his father.

Take your break and allow him the chance to grieve without feeling guilty that he isn't paying adequate attention to the baby.

I'm sorry for your family's loss and congrats on the new baby!


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Pradnya - posted on 11/25/2013




Dont be so hard on yourself . You were busy taking care of ur family and its been just a month . who is stopping u for spending time with ur little one now ? Make it up to ur little one . What is gone is gone ...dont think too much about past ..... Take each day as it comes and give ur best....thats what i do everyday....There will be so many more moments to capture and make u laugh with ur little one....so dont worry . Take care

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