Missing the moments

Rachel - posted on 09/08/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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After my second child was born, i almost instantly was struck with this feeling of anxiety...that I had not been present enough during her pregnancy as i was with my first...that i had not captured the moments and had not taken enough pictures in the hospital....things like that. Maybe it is because this is likely my last and i am grieving that i won't ever go through pregnancy or childbirth or having a little baby ever again. The anxiety has gotten better as I'm sure my hormones have somewhat settled (im 6 months post partum ). But i still worry. I feel like she is growing so fast and time is flying and i still feel unable to really capture the moments and be present. I work full time and when im not working my attention is divided between my two kids...and the housework...and my husband (almost forgot about that...haha). It is hard. Anyone experience these feelings and have any advice? How do i stay present and capture the moments so that im not constantly feeling regret or worry?

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Rachel - posted on 09/09/2016

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Thank you both so much for the suggestions, support, and insight. I am going to try both and see how i feel. Will report back. Thanks again...i am so appreciative.

Donna - posted on 09/08/2016

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Anxiety is an awful feeling! As a mom we want to provide our children with a perfect world including a perfect mom. What does that really mean? What makes a perfect mom or a very present mom? What are the pieces we need to ensure to provide our child with so they will be happy, safe, healthy children and adults as they mature. Children need love, attention, care, safe environment to be able to explore and grow. I worked with 4 children while my husband traveled and built a business. This is not an easy task. I know that I need love and graciousness most of all along with an reality check. My children received love as i would want someone to provide me. What would it look like if you sat down an wrote out the 5 most important ideas/traits/values you want your child to know by the time they leave home? How can you start taking time to pass those onto your child today? May you be blessed as you pause and think about your priorities for yourself as a mom. Praying that a game plan eases the anxiety. Blessings...let me know how it goes.

Sarah - posted on 09/08/2016

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I wish I were this on top of things but I will tell you what my sister did for her family. My sister is a police officer and has worked full-time all thru her parenting years. She has a 10, 8 and 7 year old. She has been writing journals for each child since they were born. I don't know how she does it, but she takes the time to write is each child's journal (not sure how often) she writes milestones, funny stories, special events. Maybe doing something like this may help you feel more in the moment and like time is not so fleeting?

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