Modesty at birth

Emily - posted on 05/10/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




Im expecting my second child. With my first it was very much just me and my partner and obviously the This time we are planning to have a few family members of both gender present. My first was a home waterbirth which im keen to have again. The trouble is i was pretty much in the nude last time as it was just me an hubby. Im thinking of at least wearing a sports bra this time as there will be other people present but iv been told some women find this restrictive and end up taking it off. im sure il feel comfortable anyway if this does happen but will the others be? Did you have family at your birth?


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Mabel - posted on 05/10/2011




My MIL walked in at th wrong time and saw my goods.When having kids there is no modesty.=)

Tina - posted on 05/10/2011




I had a room full of people at my 4 births in the Hospital. I thought about an at home birth with my second one, I Told anyone who wanted to be there what to expect. If they did not like it they could leave the room. So do to complications I Delivered in the Hospital. Some of the men left I later found out that they were trying to be polite. Did I notice at the time not once did I ask were so and so went. A little occupied at the time. I noticed after I was done and the baby was in my arms. If you are fine with it then invite the whole state. The ones who are unease with it will leave the room. Good luck with all that is to come.

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I was completely naked for each birth I didn't care who saw it was least of my worries, and my husband, my parents and his parents were in the room.

Amy - posted on 05/10/2011




Only my husband and nurses were there. I just didn't want anyone else there in my face. Just how I like to do it, I guess! :) I've told people they can come to the hospital [or your house] and wait out of the room. I may have my daughter with me this time, but she's seen me naked. :)

Krista - posted on 05/10/2011




I didn't have family at my birth -- I felt modest about the whole thing as well.

But honestly, once we got down to action, the entire cast of Les Miserables could have driven into the room in a clown car and started videotaping me and I wouldn't have freaking noticed, let alone cared.

Kate CP - posted on 05/10/2011




I had a room full of people at both of my births and honestly it was the farthest thing from my mind. I couldn't have cared less if some one was looking at my cooter-I was busy! When the time comes don't worry about other people just worry about being as comfortable as you need to be.

Lissa - posted on 05/10/2011




I speak from being the birth partner for a friend and it didn't make either of us uncomfortable, I also helped her in and out of a bath afterwards. Maybe having had children it made me less inclined to feel strange about seeing my friend naked, I'm not sure. You need to do what makes you comfortable and if that means nude then just explain to family members that this may happen, if they are not comfortable with that don't come in.

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I had my son in the hospital with his father and my mom present, a nurse and my doctor. I was wearing a hospital gown the whole time so I was completely covered except for where the doctor was obviously. I'm having my second in the hospital as well with my hubby and my stepmother present and I'll be wearing a gown then too. I'm generally a pretty shy person so I never even thought of being uncovered during the birth, at the same time I see nothing wrong with breastfeeding publicly so when it comes to other women meh do what feels natural for you and if a pair of ta tas is going to be that upsetting to your family tell them to wait outside then, you're the one giving birth do what feels comfortable for YOU :)

Emma - posted on 05/10/2011




I had my mum, dad, both inlaws and my brother and sister at my first. I decided i was going to wear a bikini top but as the labour went on it got very tight and unfcomfortable especially when wet. All i did was annouce it was comming off and if anybody didint want to see anything then they should go. I dont think i even finished my sentence before it was off. I remember my brother looking a little bit embarrssed but everyone else was fine. At the end of the day it was only a pair of boobs and to be honest the amout of pain i was in i couldnt have cared less who saw them!

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