Mom and Dad cant seem to settle on visitation, custody, or anything to do with their child. Please read my story

Betty - posted on 01/13/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Now I am an older mom with grown young men, one of which will be with me forever as he is disabled. Now my older son is an awsome person and I really am not saying this just because he is my son. So to start, i would like to ask why do most of the mothers on this site blame the fathers for everything? I ask because of what is going on with my son now. I have read alot of your stories and notice that it is always said that a child cant be away from the mother for very long, but thats not true! There are wonderful fathers out there that can actually take a new born baby and take better care of that infant than the mothers could. now i am not saying its all that way as i do know that there are many horriable fathers that do not deserve to be around their kids. in my sons case my grandson would be better off with his father. because of health issues this baby will be my sons only child and he wants to be a father he even initated court so that he could pay his child support and see his baby. This woman didnt even let him know that the baby was born we found out via DNA test now how sad is that, she has taken every one of the babies first moments from his dad. He pays a high amount if support but he doesnt care as long as his son gets what he needs but the mother is doing everything she can to keep the father away from his son. These 2 parents dont say 2 words to each other and the mother had stopped the temp orders from going through until now when our lawyer had to go to the judge and get the orders started with out hers so now she cant stop the papers. My son gets 4 hours every other weekend and he drives 12 hours to see him for 4 hours. These are not supervised visits either but the mother wont feed the baby food so that we cant take him out for the 4 hours he is 7 1/2 months old and she still wont feed him baby food then she tells my son that she is always stuck at home because of the baby and that he doesnt know what it is like to have something wanting to eat off of him all the time !! yes she did say this several times, I have never seen her even smile at my grandson. On this last visit they offered my son a homeade piece of candy, he doesnt like sweets so he didnt want to be rude so he ate one and as soon as he put it in his mouth she told him " I poisoned it and you will die in an hour" she said it 2 more times after that as well. Now we really fear for the baby since she resents him because she doesnt get to do what she used to do. the hardest part of this is that she begged my son to get her pregnant because he had to start testerone replacement therapy soon and she wanted one befor it made my son steril and as soon as she found out she was pregnant she left him and moved 6 hours away. he has the best job you can get here and he cant quit and leave to a dead end town with no jobs so he has to stay so that he can support his child. He loves his son so much it hurts him. his mother can not provide for him in any way and she says that she will never work and her parents can just pay. Do you think in this instance that this baby with the right parent? He is not ever going to learn about values and morals because she does not have any. She told me that her dream was to work in a resteraunt in Dallas as a waitress she has no ambition whats so ever and We want our grandson to make his dreams come true. I am just asking allof you mothers to remember that you woulld not be mothers without the fathers and if the father is truly a good man dont keep his child from him for your own reasons by thinking of yourself,, think of your child first and if dad is a truly good guy let him see his child. I dont feel for the bad dads and I know they are out there but scorned women are making it so much worse on the good dad. Also, dont allow otheres to tell you what to do, if you know that the father will be a good one dont let anyone change your mind just because they dont like him or because you had troubles as a couple. The troubles between you and the father are just that, not the childs and the child has the right to know his/her father. My son needs to have custody for the best interest of his child not for himself. The mother is not a stable person and I fear a call everyday that something has happend to my grandson and I dont want it to go that far. After all we parents have to be role models and even if you and the father hate each other it is best to get along for your breauiful child/children. I wish you all well and hope that everything works out, just please remember who will be affected the most in the end. Hope you all have a great New Year and I cant wait to see your comments. Best wishes

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