Jane - posted on 12/14/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am actually the sister-in-law to the baby's mother and myself and my husband live with her and her three children. I don't know where else to turn and I'm at my wits end. Her children are 4, 2, and 3 weeks old. It should also be mentioned that the 4 and 2 both have special needs and the 4 year old has very serious behavior issues. Ever since baby 3 was born my SIL has had trouble waking up for him. She sets alarms and sleeps right next to him and won't wake up. I try and my husband tries waking her up, and she just won't get up. I have had to feed her baby countless times as well as rock him to sleep and change him. In addition to this, she can't seem to wake up before 1-1:30 pm so I am taking care of all the children. I have no kids myself, and ever since we moved in I have basically been thrust into parenthood.
I love and adore my nephews and niece. They have brought a light to my life that I never knew existed and I don't hesitate to care for them. During her pregnancy she would go out a lot to shop. A grocery shopping trip could easily take 7 hours. A check up and ultrasound would leave her gone for at least 4 hours. For the past six months it is safe to say I have raised her children. We thought things would change with the newborn but they haven't really. She still leaves on lengthy shopping trips. I had never even fed a newborn before and now I am basically raising him too. She has severe depression and I have struggled with mental illness my whole life so I do understand how hard it is for her.
I am worried that something is going to happen to the baby. There have been instances where I heard the baby crying and I woke her up, and thought she would take care of him. I fall back asleep and wake up two hours later to him screaming and she still being asleep. I love them so much and take care of them because I must, but I am exhausted. Has anyone else experienced this? Thank you so much.