Mom is trying to prove me an unfit mother.

Tonya - posted on 03/15/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My mother is trying to prove me an unfit mother because I talked to my ex who is still my child's father legally and I needed is permission to go to another part of state for a job. She also says I am unfit because my child is not potty trained and her doctor told me not to push her but my mother doesn't like her doctor. She is also saying I am unfit because my child likes to sleep in just a diaper and says that I need to force her. Every time I try to move out she calls cps saying I am a bad mother because I'm not staying with her. I have a job and Daycare for my child . now they want to prove me unfit cause the room we share is never clean because there are toys all over and no room. What do I do???

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Raye - posted on 03/15/2016

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Your mother sounds like she needs to get a grip. She had her chance to mother her children, now you are an adult, and you are the mother to your child (not her). Seems like you need to completely break away from her. If CPS has been involved, and nothing found to remove the child from your care, then your mother doesn't have a leg to stand on. She's just trying to control you. Unless they find clear signs of abuse, CPS generally wants to keep children with the parents and will recommend actions to remedy any "violations". If they give you an action plan, then follow their instructions, and you should have no problem keeping your child. Then tell your mother that she can either be respectful of you and your choices as a mother, or she can have no further contact with you and your child.

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Dove - posted on 03/15/2016

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Unless your mother has court ordered guardianship or visitation... you have every right to move out of her house. If you know you are not doing anything wrong (and nothing you mentioned is wrong)... let her call CPS. They might open a case for investigation, but then you can prove there is nothing wrong and if she keeps calling them... CPS will get her for making false reports.

Raye - posted on 03/15/2016

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You can't kidnap the child from a grandparent unless they were awarded some kind of custody/visitation by a court. You and the father are the only people that need to worry about visitation and moving away. If you two have it worked out, then your mom has no say. Your uncles have no say.

Tonya - posted on 03/15/2016

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I have then she gets all my uncle's involved. She told me that if I move away with my child she would get me for kidnapping and child endangerment. So I am cutting all ties with my family for a while

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