mom of a 1 year old boy

Nicki - posted on 04/15/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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how do you get your child to sleep in his own bed at night enstead of with mommy and daddy if i put him in his own bed he gets really mad i dont understand because he used to sleep in his own bed with no problem

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Angelica - posted on 01/02/2014

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My one year old sleeps in his bed just fine till about 1 am then he either gets cold or dreams wat ever it is he won't drink b n go back to sleep till we put him in our bed.and then about 7am he goes back in his bed. Is the weird?

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Hey dont panic, it will happen.....I have a 2 1/2 year old that goes upto bed, has his milk and story, falls asleep in his bed, then decides just as mummy is going to bed to wake up....sometimes I am lucky and can get him to fall back to sleep, but mostly he doesnt want to go back. Then I bring him in with me until he is asleep, then I transfer him back to his bed, then he is there till the morn!

Nicki - posted on 04/16/2009

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he does take naps in his own bed. And i have tryed to put him to sleep before puting him in his bed but almost as soon as i do that he wakes up and wont go back to sleep until i put him in bed with us. It is like we are his security blanket at night and he has to be between us not by the wall or outside of the bed. Thanks to anyone who can help.

User - posted on 04/16/2009

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Mine never slept as a newborn. It was self preservation for me to get some sleep for us to sleep together. At 1 year he would wake up almost every hour. At 18 months we bought a huge big teddy who he could pat and cuddle into when i wasn't there. At 2 he was given his own bed and bedroom. I was just expected to sleep with him there. We are now weaning him off that.
There are alot of benefits to co-sleeping. I still sleep with my two and half year old for about 5 hours a night. He is the most confident, outgoing, chilled, independent, happy and curious child at his school.
However if you have had enough then it is time to do something about it
There is a book called The No Cry Sleep Solution. It is awesome! Helps you to develop pre bed routines, how to deal with tears and some rather creative ideas. Although it may appear that it hasn't worked for us at least he is only waking twice a night now
Good luck

Debra - posted on 04/16/2009

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ps - we also play Louis Armstrong's 'Wonderful World' softly as she goes to sleep - and she now is attached to this little soft animal toy too. At first when she wee'd in the night we'd change her (round 11pm) - but my health visitor said to let her learn to sleep through it till morning, then change her. I do this now and it works! She has learnt to sleep through it - and she has started to wee less through the night, which is great for her bladder control. She's 14 months now, happiest little baby I've ever seen!

Debra - posted on 04/16/2009

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The quicker you can successfully have him or her sleeping in his/her own cot the better. Co-sleeping puts huge pressure on a relationship. It's not fair on your husband, even if he gives in. It's also much better for a child's independence and growing confidence. Your little boy or girl will still know you love him or her - it's just good to remember it's the very best thing for your child. He or she will cry at first, it's natural - but the longer you put it off the harder it will be for your child - and for the transition for you and your husband. Also don't forget, your relationship directly affects your baby, so being happy and strong as a couple is going to be good for your child too.

Cassie - posted on 04/15/2009

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I think its just one of those things that will be hard at first with a lot of crying but after a few nights he will get used to sleeping in his own bed an go to bed easier if you stick to it. But you could also try putting your son in his bed after he was already sleeping, that worked for me on nights my son didnt want to sleep in his crib!

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I let my son get mad over the situation and within a week or so he stopped with the screaming and went to his own bed. I kept telling him that he was a big boy and had to sleep in his own bed. I would rub his back or rock him for a little while to calm him down and help get him ready to fall asleep. I also gave him his favorite bear to snuggle with and played some lullaby music for him. Whatever you do you have to be consistent. Once I had my son sleeping in his bed that was it. I won't let him back in our bed for any reason.

Whitney - posted on 04/15/2009

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He is going to get mad, because he has gotten use to sleeping with you. I have heard horror stories of that same situation. The good part is that he is just 1 yr old. The sooner you break of this, the easier it will be for him and you to transition. Does he take naps in his own bed? If not, then start there. If he already takes naps in his own bed, you are just going to have to make him sleep in it if you really want him to eventually sleep only in his bed. Children are people of habit and that's why it's going to be hard for him to understand at first why he's not sleeping with you. Good luck and it's not going to be fun for a few nights, but don't give up...eventually it will work.

Tamara - posted on 04/15/2009

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I have no idea, honestly, as we're still co-sleeping with our 18 month old.

Candice - posted on 04/15/2009

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You just have to keep putting them in their bed no matter what. Yes he might throw tantrums and keep getting up but you have to stay firm and eventually he'll get it.

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